Post # 1
DH and I have been married a month now (yay!!) but still adjusting to sleeping well in the same bed. We had slept together before we got married but not every night up until a couple months ago. Lately it feels like we each only get a few nights of good quality sleep a week. We just upgraded from full to queen bed. He always ends up on my side of the bed cuddling leaving me with no room and hot and sweaty.
Anyone else had to adjust to this side of coupledom?
Post # 3
We still adjust. I feel like we go through cycles where we don’t sleep well for a week and then we get in a groove and sleep good for a couple weeks.
It takes time!! I got frustrated because when I was hot I would roll away, but that would wake him up and he would “follow me”. I had to tell him, I appreciate him wanting to cuddle/be close, but I am moving because I’m hot.
Post # 4
O totally. We are not married yet but we’ve lived together since November. I’m still adjusting & I still can’t sleep. I am a light sleeper so any movement or noise his body makes usually wakes me up. Unfortunatly I don’t have much advice. A lot of weeks I sleep in the guest room 2-3 nights…. :S It sucks but I need my sleep or i’m grumpy alllllll day…..
Post # 5
I’d say going queen will help. If you can, splurging on a nice mattress is key in my opinion. Before I moved in, my boyfriend got a really nice mattress. It’s really nice not feeling the person next to you moving. As for him crowding your space, I think what I ended up doing is nudging him over whenever he started creeping over to my side (now I nudge him to stop snoring). Eventually he got better about it.
Post # 6
It took us a while. We originally had a queen but had to get a king because he takes up so much room! we sleep much better now 🙂 And because we wouldnt be able to get a king up the stairs we got 2 twins with a topper and it was SOOOO much cheaper!
Post # 7
I’ve been living with my fiance for over a year, and we are both able to sleep well at night. My first tip is get a good mattress. Before we moved in together we knew that we were not sleeping well we stayed over at the other person’s house, so we actually tested the mattresses out in the store by him (or me) turning over and asking if the other person felt it. When we didn’t, we knew we had our mattress. Plus, we upgraded to a queen mattress, so we have enough space to sleep without bumping into each other. Next, we’ve both acknowledged that we sleep best when we aren’t cuddling up to one another. We cuddle before we sleep, then break apart to sleep, and cuddle again once the alarm clock goes off. It works really well. Sleep is just way too important!
Post # 8
We’ve been experiencing this too! Before we were married, sleeping in the same bed felt like a romantic treat since we didn’t live together. Now, after the initial cuddling, I find myself getting as close to the edge as possible so I feel like I am alone in the bed! I can’t wait until we can upgrade to a California King like in our honeymoon suite – that was amazing!!
Post # 9
My FI and I have been living together for years, and I am a really light sleeper, and I have really bad asthma so I need to sleep in a cold room so I can breathe easier, and not wheez. As weird as this may seem we sleep with seperate blankets, he sleeps with a down comfotrer (he gets cold becuse of the ac) and I sleep with just a summer quilt, we both sleep fine and it makes it so we can still sleep in the same bed but still manage to be comfortable and get a good night sleep. We also have a really good mattress, so we don’t really notice if the other is moving while sleeping.
Post # 10
We’re still adjusting. I’d love to have a king but it won’t fit in our narrow bedroom! So a queen it is. A memory foam mattress really helped deflect some of the minor adjustments we make in the night, like rolling around.
Post # 11
After 10 YEARS of living together, we’re STILL adjusting. For us, it’s not a movement or temperature issue; it’s a different kind of matress needs issue. Mr. needs/prefers a FIRM mattress & I need/prefer one that adjusts to my curves. About 4 years ago, we got a memory foam top mattress that now hurts his back after a while. So we’re looking into other options…a bed that has different levels of firmness (SUPER expensive), a sleep number bed (really BAD reviews), even pushing two twins (of differing firmness) together. Not sure what we’re going to do yet…any tips out there?
Post # 12
We’re not married yet, but we live together. We sleep in seperate rooms during the week and try to sleep together on the weekends. I most always end up getting up in the middle of the night and going to sleep in my bed! It’s just impossible. I think once we buy a house we are going to invest in a King bed, hopefully that will help.
Post # 13
We had a really hard time adjusting to sleeping together, we’ve been working at it for about 2 years. We are much better at it now, but some nights if one of us has a bad night someone ends up on the couch. We sleep in a full bed, but we sleep best in a King. I can’t wait until we move into a house instead of sleeping at my condo so we can have a huge bed. We also cuddle before sleeping and in the morning then sleep separately. It’s better for everyone involved.
Post # 14
We have a California King bed, and I swear sometimes even THAT feels like we’re sleeping on my old full size bed. My husband has the bad habit of rolling over to get as close to me as possible, even though there’s like 4 feet on the other side of him! Luckily, it’s summer now and ridiculously warm in our house all the time…that usually keeps him on his side of the bed! 🙂
Post # 15
Oh goodness, how I drool after pictures of Cal King beds! We have a queen and I just can’t justify the expense of upgrading since it’s in perfectly good condition. But ooh, that extra foot of space would be sooo nice!!
Like many of you, my husband cuddles up to me several times throughout the night which keeps me awake since I get hot and I need space to fall asleep again, I’m an extremely light sleeper. And we don’t have a memory foam mattress, so when he moves the slightest bit it shakes the whole bed, waking me up. He has a bad habit of squirming all morning on the weekend instead of getting up and letting me sleep. He’ll toss and turn and squirm and worm until I finally give up trying to fall back asleep and get up with him.
Post # 16
I can’t believe you guys tried to sleep in a full sized bed. We have a queen, and I curse the fact that we don’t have a king almost every day! We have really demarcated space in bed. We each have a side, and when we are sleeping, we don’t cross the sides. At first, it took me nudging him and rolling him over to his own side, but now he does it haturally. He wraps the covers around himself like a burrito, too, leaving me none, so we each have our own comforters. We also switched from an innersprung mattress to a momory foam one to reduce the amount of movement waking each of us up at night. It is an amazing mattress – highly recommended!