Post # 1
Bee’s I have miscarried 4 months ago & I have type 1 Diabetes that isn’t under control. I have tried getting it under control like when I was pregnant. It was the best it had been in my entire life of having diabetes. BUT it still wasn’t good enough & I was doing everything to keep it low. I even went way to low one day (50) !!!! What I am trying to say bee’s is I am terrified of miscarrying again. And started thinking about adopting. Ive asked hubby in the past if he would ever adopt and he said yes what ever I wanted to do (this was before miscarriage) I was talking about how I see those sad stories of children going hungry across sea’s type of adopting. But now I am serious. Have any of you bee’s adopted? How much does is cost? And what are the need to know basics? I don’t want to adopt anytime soon, maybe in the next 3-5 years? And I know hubby would be fine with it as he wants a baby so bad himself but we are to scared to try again. So this isn’t a “I am doing it right now thing” But more so I am just curious & researching the thought.
Post # 3
Have any of you bee’s adopted? No, but my parents adopted my sister and they were both adopted themselves.
How much does is cost? Depends on if it’s local, continental (us), or international. My sister’s was international and my parents were in the US but that was a LONG time ago. It’s not cheap, but it IS pretty definite. (as opposed to other expensive things that can be used to have children)
And what are the need to know basics? Decide between those three things and then you’ll have a better idea of what to research. Also know (if more local) whether you want a closed adoption or are okay with an open or semi-open one. Research. And I recommend going through an actual agency.
I don’t want to adopt anytime soon, maybe in the next 3-5 years? Then within the next few years, you’ll want to start the process. It takes quite a while. So if you want a child in 3 years, plan to start paper work in the next 1.5 or so. However, if it’s a special needs adoption (like my sister’s) it can go SUPER quickly.
Adoption is a wonderful option. It sounds like you are perfectly okay with this option. We may adopt out of necessity (I have PCOS) or just because we want to. Apparently it’s a “thing” in my family. 🙂 haha.
Post # 4
I have been researching adoption for a few months now. I will say adoption in general, especially overseas is expensive. I’m in Ohio and the average cost of private adoption is $16,000-$20,000 and international can exceed over $25,000. I’ve done my research with local organizations and larger ones such as Dave Thomas Foundation. There is a lot of information out there. I would start by researching agencies in your area and they can send you so much information. We will choose domestic foster adoption or private adoption if we are matched with a birth mom we feel comfortable with as I want a very open adoption. All the information is overwhelming so just take your time and find some support groups online. They are very helpful!
Post # 5
I was adopted and I have also worked at an adoption agency. Message me if you have some specific questions. I’m about to leave but I didn’t want to miss out on this post 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks everyone so much! I really don’t know if we will ever adopt or ever even be able to pay for it, we will try again once my sugar is under control. But if we was to fail again I would be 100% ready to adopt! So Its not anything I want to deal with right now legally or with adoption agencies, ect. I was just really wondering what the process was esp with cost. All of your information was so great & if I ever have anymore Q’s I know what hive to come to!! 🙂
Post # 7
I’m sorry for your miscarriage. I know someone who is going through something similar, but I think she is type II.
I know a few people who have adopted. International adoption is more expensive. It depends on the country and other factors, but I have heard that it can be around $20,000. There are certain tax credits that might help and some workplaces offer adoption benefits. Different countries or agencies have different requirements. For example, some countries require a certain age range for prospective parents, or will only place children with married couples or they may have income requirements. There is a lot of paperwork involved and there is an approval process and waiting period that may take a year or two.
Domestic adoption is less expensive. There are also many children in the foster care system who need homes. From what I’ve heard, one of the risks with domestic adoption is the possibility that the birth mother might change her mind at some point in the process.
There are a lot of adoption videos on youtube that are very touching. Just personal videos of families.
Post # 8
I do not have any experience with adoption, but we will be adopting our youngest child. It’s something that I’ve known I was going to do since I was very young. However, I do know what it’s like to get pregnant again after a loss. I lost Moose, our first baby, at week 34. Since they never found out what happened to Moose, I am currently pregnant (week 30) with no idea if we’ll have a baby or go home with empty arms again. If you want to talk about how it feels, I’m here. If you chose to go adoption and never try to get pregnant again, I totally understand that because this is hard.
Post # 9
Remember that you can write off adoption costs on your taxes!!!
Post # 10
I’m totally PRO-Adoption and have siblings who are adopted, but have you thought about a surrogate to carry your and DH’s baby? It would be a way to get you a biological child, and not have any issues based on your diabetes. It is usually less of a cost than adoption too, depending on the surrogate fee.
Post # 11
I want to adopt someday. Hubby and I have decided to go foster-to-adopt because adoption prices are soaring. Average international adoption is $40,000 (when you figure in agency fees and program fees) now and waiting lists are getting longer and longer ironically. I used to want to adopt from Haiti, but then their prices went up and they now require a couple to be married 10 years. Foster-to-adopt is much cheaper. Sometimes it can even be free, and you are giving a child a home that needs one locally. I have a friend who has done foster-to-adopt three times and doesn’t have to wait a long time. I have another friend who is starting classes soon to go this route.
My BIL has uncontrollable blood sugar. Recently, he and my sister have started eating a lot more raw food. I’m not sure if it has worked for him yet, but I’ve been into the idea of a high raw diet for years and have done tons of research and read a lot of books and have heard it can completely reverse diabetes. I don’t think 100% raw is really the best idea because some foods have more nutrients when cooked and shaping something like a burger made out of carrots, celery, and sunflower seeds doesn’t make it a burger. But I digress.
A juice feast can work miracles. People have done this and reversed diabetes and cancer. I’m now on a partial juice feast/partial raw/partial asian detox soup diet for fibromyalgia using food lists and tips from the Maker’s Diet (the author was cured of Crohn’s disease after doctor after doctor sent him home to die), and I have to say my pain level has definitely improved and I am starting to sleep better, as well. It’s only been two days so far.
Just wondering if you’d thought of a road like that, to get your blood sugar under control in case you do want to have biological children. With fibro, if I were to have biological children without getting it under control or reversing it, I would end up in so much pain that I wouldn’t be fit as a mother, so I’m doing what I can so we can have children both ways if we feel called to do so.
Sorry if I overstepped. I know you just asked about adoption, but I just wanted to offer that information, in case you haven’t already come across it.