Adult only reception, junior bridesmaid, her plus one… Help me out here..

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would invite her, she’s immediate family.

We are personally inviting only 3 young children, FH’s goddaughter and her 2 sisters, so I understand not wanting children there, but to me, if you have people under 18 that are that important in your life, that gets bent.

Post # 4
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why does etiquette say she deserves a +1?  A lot of people don’t allow +1s. Would it be rude to have her stand up in your wedding and not invite her to your reception. ABSOLUTELY

Post # 5
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@jlbiffis:  Idk how anyone else feels about this, but I think if you have her as a bridesmaid, then yeah you should probably invite her to the reception.

Okay, so you don’t want kids there (maybe not bringing your 3 year old daughters), but a 17 year old isn’t a child and she’s also the sister of the groom.

However, I see no problem with saying no to a 17 year old’s boyfriend. lol

Post # 8
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10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

She’s your fiance’s sister, so you have to invite her. Family would be an exception to the children rule – you’re bringing your own daughters right? As far as the date goes… what does your fiancé think?

Post # 9
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1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@jlbiffis:  I wouldn’t. It’s opening the door to lots of people feeling their hardly-any-younger-than 17-kids should be the exception to the general “no kids” rule too. 

I do, however, think it would be a little rude not to invite this girl to the reseption if she’s your bridesmaid. How about you ask someone else to be your bridesmaid or don’t have one at all and avoid this problem altogether?

ETA: Oh shoot, I missed the fact that she’s your FI’s sister. Well, in that case I think you do have to invite her. Maybe don’t give her a plus one though? It’s not like she won’t know anyone otherwise!

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@jlbiffis:  Even with the 2 younger siblings not attending, if you have her as a bridesmaid then she should be invited to the reception.

Also, 17 is REALLY close to 18 and completely different than 7.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@jlbiffis:  I’d say generally, yes, but she’s 17.  She can suck it up.  Plus, she knows at least her mom and her brother there! lol

Post # 15
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree–Definitely invite her to the reception, but there’s NO reason to give her a +1!

Post # 16
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439 posts
Helper bee

I think not inviting the groom’s 17 year old sister to the wedding would be an insult of truly epic proportions. If she’s a bridesmaid, the insult would be unimaginable.

 

That being said, I don’t think she absolutely requires a plus one, even if she’s in the WP. Don’t worry about inviting the teen BF.

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