Post # 1
so my dilemma is-i am okay with having the kids in our immediate family and obviously the flower girl and ring bearer there. but we have some extended family members that i am afraid will bring all of their kids. is it rude to put “adults only” in front of “reception to follow”? or is there a better way to word this?
Post # 3
I listed “adult reception to follow” in small script letters at the bottom of the invitation.
And addressed invites specifically to who i was inviting
Post # 4
According to experts, it’s not proper etiquette. They say you can let people know through word of mouth or on your website.
I’m not one to always follow etiquette, so I’d suggest maybe putting it on your response card or reception card, but not on the actual invite.
Post # 5
we provided babysitting for everyone under 10, and luckily we have an age gap to one 14yo and the rest are over 16. I think the kids will have a blast the babysitter will have our wii and I went a little toy crazy at the store. we are paying him $130 for the night and food 🙂
Post # 6
I’d put it on your reception card and put it on your website. If anyone asks then you can explain to them that you’re only having children from the immediate family there and your reception is adult only. That’s what I think at least.
Post # 7
We’re having and adults only reception and are putting it (politely) on the invitation, but I’m worried that if you’re having some kids there from the immediate family, the others who couldn’t bring their kids might not take it well. You obvously know your guest list better than me, just food for thought…
Post # 8
What the Fiance and I are puting on our invitations (I saw this somewhere on weddingbee lol) on the rsvp card you put “we have saved ___ seats in your honor” ‘.. obviously if you fill that blank in with “2” then they should know that its for them and their significant other, not their five kids lol… or you could actually have an rsvp card that says “we have saved seats for __________” and you just write the names in yourself… its really up to you.. hope this helps.
Post # 9
My cousin used the line “Please make child care arrangements” and I’m totally going to copy her.
Post # 10
thanks for all the advice ladies-good stuff!
Post # 11
I didn’t put “Adults only” in my invites or reception card but I put “We have reserved ____ seat(s) in you honor” on our RSVP’s 🙂
Post # 12
we put “we respectfully request a kid-free weekend” most understood, some didnt but we didn’t really care! Its not a kid friendly venue and theyd just be bored and running around!
Post # 13
we are gonna do the “___ seats in your honour” and im toying with the “adult reception to follow” wording….
Post # 14
I really wish I had seen these posts sooner. My wedding is coming up and I am having drama with this in my family. We aren’t having any kind of wedding party, but yes I do have family coming in from out of state and one of them has kids. We aren’t making any exceptions to the “no kids” rule. So my BIL is going to keep them from coming to the ceremony, too, out of spite. I guess I should’ve expected that………….but we warned them last summer we were keeping it small and not having children there, because most of our friends have kids! What can you do………….