- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
I guess the shortened version of my situation is my fiancé and I would really, really prefer that children do not attend our ceremony/ reception- but we love our family and if not having a sitter meant them being stressed or unable to attend we wouldnt want that either. Is there a way to say “adults only preferred” for a wedding? If so when and where.
To give you a info ore info:
The ceremony starts at 4:30 and the reception at 6. After the reception we planned on Going to local bars since the reception ends at 11.
There would be 12 children under the age of 5, and a few that are 7 or 8 if all kids attended.
There is an open bar from cocktail hour on.
(this is where is gets dicey…) 4 of the kids are nieces and nephews. Two sets of parents are in the wedding party. So on one hand do you ask the ppl that are in your party who have done so much to find a sitter? I know my fsil’s sister got married in Mexico and to this day she talks about how selfish it was that kids couldn’t attend. Note: I am not having a destination wedding.
At the same time- we asked them to be in our parties for a reason, and we are having a unique ceremony in that everyone in our party will be doing a “reading” or something that they choose for us. One of the people is actually marrying us. Plus there will be pictures after and they’ve all said they love the idea of going out after… So who would be watching these little ones.
a hotel sitter is out of the question for most of them. Our cousin got married was in the same situation, and hired a sitter, but something happened (not sure what) and they are against it from the stories I hear.
Two of the kids are absoluteAngels. One has servere ADHD and his parents always talk about how they have no control over him although he’s 8. He has tantrums where things are smashed in Resturants and yet they still bring him everywhere.
My mom thinks that weddings are about family and would be offended if kids couldn’t come.
His mom thinks flower girls and ringbearers are “tacky” (we aren’t having any) and that there’s no place for kids at weddings.
What makes me nervous, is that I want to believe that everyone will you their best judgement and most will decide not to bring their kids- but that’s not the case.
So- how do I say “adults only preferred” lol. Or better yet, I know that’s what I want to say- but when/ where?