Advice

posted 3 years ago in Shoes
Post # 2
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3706 posts
Sugar bee

I vote no unless you can wear them again and again. A lot!

First daughter to marry – $5300 Lazaro gown – $30 shoes, from DSW; only in 1 photographer’s shot and then taken off to dance.

Second daughter – $4000 Allure Couture gown; and 49.50 for blinged-out shoes, from David’s Bridal. $20 bling sandals to dance.

Post # 3
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wouldn’t. I haven’t even looked for shoes yet but I know they’ll be aorund $50. I plan on taking them off after the ceremony/pictures. 

Post # 4
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1234 posts
Bumble bee

Chaedra:  Really, I think it depends on your  financial situation. So you have any fun money just for you you could use to buy them, instead of the wedding fund? Then get them; he can’t say much if it’s your personal money. But if it’s a situation where you both run every single purchase by each other for approval, either don’t get them (you don’t want to set a precident where one of you can buy whatever even after the other said no, or else what’s the point of that system?) or reevaluate that system as maybe not for you two. But if it’s the kind of situation where it’s the shoes, or being able to pay bills or feed your wedding guests, don’t get them. 

Personally, I’m not engaged, but I can’t imagine spendingmore than $50 (big maybe) on shoes. But everyone is different; it all depends on your priorities. 

Post # 5
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1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I bought 2 pairs of shoes from Sears in the same colour for 50 bucks (thank you clearence rack!).  One has a heel and the others are flats.  A friend of mine bought really nice shoes for her wedding and never wore them at all.  There is a beautiful photo of them on a tree stump in her back yard though.  If you have budgeted and there’s room for a splurge then go for it.  Although I didn’t (and I love me my shoes)

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think having expenive brand name shoes is necessary, but if it’s something you’re really excited  about and you can easily afford  it, then go for it. If it would make money tight, I’d pick something else.. If you’re wearing a long dress, nobody will really see them. But, then, I never buy expensive name brand shoes, so maybe it’s just me. Do you buy these kinds of shoes regularly? Expensive shoes always make  me think of the Sex and the City episode where Carrie realizes that she spent a house downpayment on shoes and has no place to live.

Post # 9
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1234 posts
Bumble bee

Chaedra:  If you’re only going to wear them once, I wouldn’t spend that much money on them. I was kind of under the assumption that these would be shoes you would wear several times.

Post # 10
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8701 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I never wore my wedding shoes again. Granted they were like 12 dollar heels from Payless, I haven’t nor ever will wear them again. I wore them for about 15 minutes for the ceremony and I had my husband’s best man crawl under my dress and rip those puppies off. Heels just aren’t comfortable and I don’t think they’re really functional enough for every day wear.<br /><br />So I vote no, unless you have mounds of cash to throw away.

Post # 11
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Newbee

It all depend on you. It is your big day.If you think you will feel happy and comfertable, buy this shoe.But if you think it is totally waste of money and you can’t wear it again just choose another one.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Chaedra: Kids can definitely be a money vaccum!

So long as you have a good amount in emergency saving and are on track for saving for retirement and paying down debt, I think you can spend your money how you please.

I tend to think of expenses as to how much joy they will bring me vs how much joy I would get from spending the money on something else. For me, I’d get more enjoyment from a weekend getaway than from a pair of shoes, so it wouldn’t be the best decision for me. I also want to retire early, so I like to stick any extra money in retirement savings. But if having those shoes is going to bring you more joy than going out to half a dozen really nice dinners (or whatever else you enjoy and might spend that money on) then go for it. Well, go for trying to convince your fiance. If you have a system where you have to get approval from the other – he would need to be on board.

Post # 13
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2441 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I bought some really cute shoes for my wedding, they were around $100 so reasonable, but I never ended up wearing them. The weather sucked so I ended up wearing a pair of shoes that I already owned. I wore them for the ceremony, pictures, cocktail hour, and the dinner part of our reception.. after that they were off and stayed off all night.

If you have the money to afford the shoes comfortably, and you will wear them more than once then I say go for it. If not, or if you have any doubts then go with a cheaper option.

Post # 14
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1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m going to ignore the financial part because I would never try and tell someone how to spend their money.

What does your dress look like? What’s your color scheme?  Do you wear heels all day long every day?  Do you know there’s a pair that works with your overall vision?

I ended up buying a pair of expensive (for me) shoes because they were so perfect with my overall vision. They were half the price of Jimmy Choos.  However, I STILL bought a pair of flats for the reception because I know that even with the moderately low heel, i will eventually get to the point of crying pain from wearing them all day long with a very heavy gown on.  For that reason I would probably never spend close to a grand on a pair of designer super high heels.

Post # 15
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1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I bought $15 white flats on Amazon and then strassed them with AB crystals. Now they look all pink and green and sparkly. 🙂

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