Advice

posted 3 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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1107 posts
Bumble bee

I’m surprised no one has commented on this!

We did a premarital class that was kind of like counseling, but it wasn’t one on one. We had one on one time with a few mentor couples which was great.

A good nugget of advice that I was given by a 95-year-old lady in my church was that when one of us is mad, the other one can’t be mad. Same goes with sadness. Of course, there are exceptions, but she just meant general frustration with your spouse. One of you should always be “thinking straight” enough to help pull the other one back to their feet again. She said her and her late husband followed that rule and each year was better than the previous year. 🙂 Of course they were married 50+ years before he passed away.

Advice that I always give to newlyweds (we haven’t been married too long ourselves…) is to never let each other sleep on the couch. Always sleep together, even when you don’t feel like it. Sometimes it’s easy to want to “prove a point” by staying mad at your spouse but just learning to bite your tongue, apologize, and remember that you’re in love.

We took a marriage seminar weekend class that was really great earlier this year, and a good piece of advice from that was to ALWAYS have a team mindset. When you think of your marriage as a team, everything you do is for the good of the team. You aren’t competing AGAINST one another, you are trying to better your teammate so that you BOTH can win. If you win, they win. If they lose, you lose. It’s all connected, so you have to be on a team and always think that way!

Post # 4
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Best advice we got was to treat marriage like a garden. If you dont take care of your garden ie water, prune, fertilise, daily, it will slowly start to die. 

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