Post # 1
Okay Ladies here is the deal. I have my girls gifts all planned out. My Fiance sketched out the Baltimore Skyline and we had it put on to a tote bag with our names and wedding date on it. In the bag I am putting a pair of earrings, a clutch that I am making, a wine glass (I am painting the Baltimore Skyline on it with their name), a feather flower for the day of the wedding, and this really cute crab cookie cutter. Incase you can’t tell we are doing a Baltimore Theme.
Here is the issue. The groomsmen are wearing suits and this is going to be my FI’s gift to the groomsmen. Now I feel like my gift to my girls pails in comparison to the groomsmen’s gifts. This is an issue because my girls will go through so much time, money, and effort for my Bridal Shower, Bachelorette Party, and the Wedding Day, compared to the men who just get really drunk for a Bachelor Party and then just show up the day of.
I did not pay for my bridesmaides dresses and I am not requiring them to get their hair done, make-up done, or nails done. I told them that the only thing I want for their shoes is that they choose shoes that are one of the 4 wedding colors.
I don’t make all the much money and my Fiance is paying for his gifts out of his own pocket. I feel like my gift to my girls now looks like crap next to what my Fiance is doing. He should not feel like he can’t do this for his groomsmen though just because of my budget. What should I do?
Here are a few pictures of my gift to my girls.
Post # 3
I think what you are doing is fine! Nothing out there says that you have to give the bridesmaids the same money range in gifts that the groomsmen get. Buy them what you can afford. Maybe you can take them out to brunch or something to thank them?
Post # 4
I don’t think you have to match what he is spending on the guys. The fact that you are making so many of the items yourself makes them more special. Perhaps you could throw in some little stuff (like from the dollar section at target) if you feel you need more things….otherwise I think you’re fine!
Post # 5
I think your gift is more presonal and more likely to appeal to girls.
My only feedback is (if it’s not too late) to not put your name or wedding date on the totes. It just makes them way less re-useable.
Post # 6
I think your gifts are awesome!! I love that clutch… can’t believe you made it! It looks like the same material that my Future Mother-In-Law is using for the flower girls dresses.
I’m sure your BMs were happy to put in all the work for your wedding and they will appreciate this token. Don’t worry about $$$. If you are really concerned, you could maybe scrounge up some money to get them giftcards or something. But I don’t think it’s necessary in the least!!
Post # 7
First of all, I love your gifts to your BMs! I would use and love every single thing in the bag (and including the bag). I want to buy those earrings myself! And the clutch is amazing. And the feather thing. AND the cookie cutter — so cute! Ok, I’m gushing, but you get the picture — I really like your gift. 🙂
I wouldn’t worry that your Fiance is paying for the men’s suits. I’ve been in a handful of weddings and I’ve never paid much attention to what the GMs got as gifts. It sounds like what you’ve asked of your BMs is very reasonable — just buying a dress, nothing extra.
If you want to go above and beyond, I like @MissAsB‘s suggestion of taking your girls out to brunch to thank them. I’ve had brides do this for me when I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and it’s always a really fun, special treat.
Post # 8
I think your gift is very cute!
I wouldn’t feel bad!
Post # 9
Your gift is great. I would much rather just an actual physical gift than have something paid for for me, you know? It is very nice!
Post # 10
Are you kidding me? Let me put it simply: Can I be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in your wedding?? stop stressing, love the gifts.
Post # 11
@sbharkness83: I think that the gifts you have are perfect. There is no rule saying that the gifts have to be equal value. I have been in a couple of weddings and I dont think any gifts have matched up in price for the bridal party except for one because we all got Chuck Taylors.
Post # 12
Thank you ladies. You are all too sweet and have made me feel better.
Post # 13
I’d also consider giving them a set of wine glasses with the skyline (no names.) That way, they have some to share with friends! And wine glasses don’t cost that much.