Post # 1
I’m looking for advice or tips from fellow bees that have been in a similar situation. DH and I both work full-time. DH has just been accepted as a transfer student to a 4 year college – he will be a part-time undergrad student starting in June. I am a prospective MPA grad student who will potentially be starting part-time in the fall. We will both continue working full-time and going to school part-time in the evenings.
I’m still a few months out but wanted to start early and get some advice. What tips do you have as far as balancing everything – work, school, marriage, housekeeping, etc.?
Post # 3
I did it for a couple of years and one thing that saved me was pre-packing lunches and snacks. Part of the stress of running from work to school or the library is being hungry and cranky. I found that simple sandwiches, fruit, baby carrots, and granola bars tide you over very well. When you’re home and NOT studying, try to have at least one nice meal a week which you both cook together and really enjoy.
As for the chores, they’re going to pile up if you don’t do them little by little Get paper plates, wrap your sandwiches in foil, and try not to dirty up too many dishes unless you have time to do them!
Good luck in your studies!
Post # 4
your crockpot will be your best friend
as long as you pass you get credit for a course – if you don’t have time for everything, remember that a missed lecture isn’t the end of the world
sometimes your house will be messy, and that’s ok
go to work early and study beforehand or study on your lunch breaks
smartphone = efficiency, use it to keep track of everything – the evernote app is the best, its a great place to keep schedules, notes, lists, anything
i’ve spent the last three ish years working and going to school, its hectic but worth it
Post # 5
Thank you for the great ideas!
Post # 6
@arthasdk: time management!!!!! I guess to get home from work and play with my daughter, spend time with SO, make dinner and hang out, after baby went to bed I would sit on the couch with SO and do my work as he watched tv so at least we were spending time together. It sucks but it’s doable.
Post # 7
We’re pretty much doing this now… I’m in school FT, working PT; while my DH works two jobs to help keep me in school. It has been challenging, but we know that there’s an end in sight – summer break is just a month away. 🙂 And then it starts all over again in August. 🙁
I hit the grocery store early Saturday mornings, before it gets crowded. I try to take a few hours on Sunday to cook two main meals for the week and separate them into grab-and-go single servings – usually a pasta dish and maybe steamed vegetables with rice. Invested in some nice pyrex glass bowls with lids that are perfect for fridge to microwave to dishwasher. While I’m cooking, I’m catching up on laundry and bills. Not going to lie… this does take a couple hours, but it’s kinda therapeutic.
Clean/organize what you can, when you can, but don’t stress out about it. It will eventually get done at some point.
I have asked for a minimum of two hours of Q.T. with my man each week – usually on a weekend. Absolutely no T.V., no books, no work. Just us – and our dog. Sometimes I get it. Sometimes he just wants to watch T.V. Sometimes we go out. Sometimes we stay in. Whatever. I’ll take what I can get; he’s really busy too and I understand he needs some downtime as well.
Schedule sex. Seriously. Or at least make it a point to have it every Wednesday and Saturday morning – whatever works for you. But make it a priority. Sleeping naked helps.
COMMUNICATE! Check in with eachother throughout the day… texts, VMs, emails. It’s nice to know that he’s thinking of me or that he misses me numerous times throughout the day.
Acknowledge how tough it is… don’t ever forget you’re a team tackling this together. It will help strengthen your relationship.
It can be done. You guys can do it!! Good luck!!
Post # 8
Me and my fiance work full time and go to school full time, planning a wedding feels like another job on the side. It can be very overwhelming.
I agree with the post before mine, schedule sex!
Post # 9
Yeah I work full time and go to school full time and my FI is getting his PhD so his whole job is working constantly. We definitely plan all of our meals ahead and do lots of shopping in one big trip on the weekend so we can get it done. It is also really important to schedule things so one day a week we have a rule that we aren’t allowed to work and have to spend the evening alone, no computers, no friends and no distractions.
Most importantly, remember that things are not going to get done, whether that is cleaning or laundry or whatever, things won’t be the way that they were before you were this busy. I have just learned to accept some things and move on.
I also basically never do my reading, unless it is important, and spend lots of time doing whatever I need to do during my commute.
Post # 10
I worked full-time at night while going to school full-time during the day!
It was miserable! But I survived. The most important thing is to get enough sleep!
When you’re tired, all of your problems seem MUCH bigger and WAY harder to fix than they really are!
So get enough sleep!