Advice Appreciated: Would you stop breastfeeding?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

cora_123:  how old is your baby? Are you close to weaning anyway? This is a really tough choice. I’m honestly not sure what I would do. I would probably stop to be safe. What if it is cancer? You really can’t put that off bc your baby needs a healthy mom. Good luck to you this is hard!

Post # 4
7513 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would probably stop breastfeeding.

Post # 5
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Could you stop just on that breast?

Honestly, I dont know what I would do in your situation. I am sorry you have to face such a tough decision.

Post # 7
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Although I think breast feeding is beneficial and the best way to go if you can, I don’t think it’s harmful to stop. While the odds are low, it could be harmful for you to let the growth go. So, if you stop and it was nothing and you made the “wrong” decision, no one’s really harmed. Baby didn’t get as much breastmilk, but she’ll be fine – plenty of us were formula fed and turndout ok. But if you don’t stop and it turns out you do have something malignant, that could be very dangerous. To me, seems like there’s no risk in stopping but a small but serious risk in continuing, so I’d proably just stop to be on the safe side. I see why it’s a tough decision though, and I know you’re trying to balance what’s best for your baby with how to reasonably assess a risk. Good luck.

Post # 9
2855 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


cora_123:  I think this is a very personal choice.  I tend to follow the recommendations of doctors and specialists, so if she advised you  to quite, I probably would.  FWIW, (and I breastfed my kids over a year each), I think your daughter has really gotten the important benefits of BF because you have done it for 4 months.  You’ve given her little system time to develop and she’s gotten the immunities.  I think if you wean, you can still know your baby got lots of great benefits.


All that said, I loved breastfeeding and would have been really sad to have stopped at that point, so I would have probably gotten a second opinion from another specialist before making my decision.

Post # 10
187 posts
Blushing bee

To me, there is a benefit to breastfeeding, but there’s not necessarily a ‘harm’ to not breastfeed. It’s just the lack of a benefit. There is DEFINITELY a harm to a malignant problem, and the earlier you can catch anything like that, the better. So I would definitely stop. I’m sure baby wants you around as long as possible!!

Post # 11
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: mountain venue

When i breast fed, occasionally iwould get a blocked duct and that would cause a mass, and although it was extremely painful, i would apply heat and have to massage it out, depending on how long i let it go it could last a while, although idid continue to breastfeed, has your doctor ruled out a blocked duct? Also i have had 2 friends with masses. One has had 3 different masses on 3 occasions removed that were non cancerous. The other has had one removed and it was also benign. This is a tough one…i would say go with your gut and doctors recommendation, and good luck!

Post # 12
7109 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would stop. Better safe than sorry. Also, I know thar some women can re-lactate after a period of time- (don’t know how long you have to have stopped BF-ing for before you can have tests).- but that always seemed like an interesting prospect to me. I have no idea how practical that is though- just an idea!

Post # 13
7319 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Would it make your decision any more clear if you got a second opinion?

Post # 14
3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m not a mother yet, but when we have our baby in November I really hope I’ll be able to breast feed. That said if presented with a situation like yours I would stop in a heartbeat. I’ve seen my best friend lose her mother to breast cancer and it was utterly heart breaking. I can imagine that it would be very sad to give up breast-feeding before you had planned/feel ready – but I think this is one of those scenarios when pretty much any sacrifice is worth it if it means you’ll stay healthy.

Post # 15
6802 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly yes I would I stop, if something does turn out to malignant and you end up with breast cancer or worse? Your baby will be fine on formula. I had a hard time breast feeding and didn’t have a whole lot of milk come in and ended up switching to formula. Millons of children were born and raised on formula, while breast is albeit best. So is your life, do you really want a child without a mother? Because that would be worse case possible if you let something like this go. If the doctors recommend stopping and to see if malignant or not. I would.

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