Advice for a very close family wedding??

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Holy I’d be so upset if I was you!! I’m impressed you’ve kept quiet so far, I’d definitely say something and yes it might come out harsh or even slightly mean but seriously she’s taking your wedding!!!!

In my case my FI and I were about to book our wedding venue when a school friend of mine mentioned she was booking her wedding there too, she also suddenly became very interested in my wedding plans and a LOT of her responses were “omg us too!!” ….same as you it bothered me and I started having nightmares about having a itentical wedding with a girl that I barely have anything in common with (so I had no idea why she wanted the same wedding) they were also planning on putting themselve in major debt (i’m talking +30,000 budget) and our budget is under 10,000 so I was also worried about being up-classed 🙁

…In the end we decided the stress wasn’t worth it and are now having a completely different wedding on our property which NO ONE CAN COPY!!! wahooo.

I’m not sure if you can but if it bothers you that much then change some details or the whole venue. I would definitley mention the church tho, she has no right to get married there and I’d be so hurt.


Post # 3
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Does she know about all the details of your wedding? If so, what has she said? I would definitely talk to her about this. Maybe not say ‘you stole my ideas’ but just say ‘so our weddings are so close together, this is what I have come up with, what have you planned? Just want to make sure we are not overlapping the same ideas.’ I know you don’t want family drama but if you keep it a cool casual conversation, it doesn’t have to be. But she definitly needs to know what your plans are and that you are not going to budge on certain things…like your church.

If you don’t want to bring up all of the planning, maybe just emphasize your plans to wed at YOUR CHURCH!! Where you grew up, and how special it is to you. Stating the obvious, without making it rude will maybe get the point across.

What does your FI say about all of this??

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