Advice for after a break up, any hope?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

Maybe she wants you to fight for her . Maybe she did something bad that she needs to be for given for . Or just feeling down cus her dad die . Do what you feel in your heart .

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

It sounds like she’s playing mind games.  If she’s saying all this stuff, but not trying to get back together with you, she’s not worth your energy.

Detach yourself from her.  Focus on you.  If you two are meant to be together, you will have another shot in the future.  Until then, make yourself happy and make sure she’s not a part of that happiness.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

camachoeli:  she snap chatting guys to you?

thats pretty sad. Honestly, she just sounds like a young girl who doesnt know what she wants. I think she knows she doesnt love you the way she should, but not to say there still arent feelings there. Unfortunately, i think you are on her back burner for when she is lonely and sad or bored and wants to talk. Again, not saying she doesnt have any feelings for you, i just dont think they are the same you have for her. She may not even realize what she is doing, but i think its time for you to cut ties and move on.

she is basically stringling you along and keeping you there while she sees what else is out there – i am guessing since people told you she is moving on with someone else. Dont keep setting yourself up for heart ache. 

Post # 6
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Newbee

camachoeli:  “sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall into place”.

youll get through it. do you.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

camachoeli:  This is where you need find YOUR inner strength and worth, and realize that at this moment YOU DO deserve better.  You deserve to not live in limbo or be strung along.  These post break-up convos seem wonderful, and are giving you hope, but more importantly they are keeping you from moving forward.  I would tell her, as soon as possible, that she knows you love her. She knows you want to be with her, and any other grey area is only prohibiting you from living your life.  A friendship – this SOON – is too much.  If she does not want to commit to you in the way you need, then she needs to STOP communicating with you.  It will suck, and it will be hard, but it is only fair!! 

On the flip side, in being open and honest with you, she may agree she made a mistake, and re-commit fully.  However, I find that is often the exception to rule, and so although I believe in hope, would be cautious about putting my eggs all in one basket.  

IF IT IS MEANT TO BE, it will be, and/or what is meant to actually be for you will surface one day!!

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

camachoeli:  I feel really bad because I was your GF once. It was my senior year in high school and there was this really great, sweet guy i dated for a while. He just wasn’t for me. It isnt that he did or didnt do anything. I tried to break up with him a couple times, but i felt so guilty and he wanted to be together so badly that i couldnt really bring myself too. Once i finally did i tried to stay friends with him. Part to appease him and part because i was a bitch. I did all the things your GF did. I would hang out with him when i was lonely or bored and talked to him every now and then. I would even cuddle or kiss him sometimes and tell him i loved him, but not that way. Talk about mixed signals. and i was also starting to talk to someone else. I was just an immature girl who didnt know what she wanted. Eventually he got fed up and didn’t even want to be friends and I think that is what you have to do here too. 

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