I feel like this wedding planning has been an exercise in “coming out of my shell” a bit. It was rough in the beginning, but if I look at everything like a personal social experiment it makes it easier to deal with.
I wanted to elope, FI wanted the big wedding. Guess who “won,” haha. 🙂
I’m making a HUGE effort because I love him and I want him to have a good time.
We’re scheduling 15 minutes of alone time after the ceremony and family photos. I figured we’d let the photog follow for 5 minutes then kick him out, hahah. The cocktail hour is an hour and a half, so we have some wiggle room to make that happen.
Other than that, the rule is FI cannot leave me alone on our wedding day. It’s just one day but I don’t want to feel ditched (he does this “got bored walked away” thing that I am normally OK with and laugh about… I just don’t know if I can handle it with so many people around)
Not going to lie, I am SUPER looking forward to our honeymoon, because I will be taking naps and not talking to anyone for days at a time. DAYS.
I bought my dress online and alone (FSIL especially was disappointed) and really enjoyed it. I would have hated going into the salon – I HATE shopping. I am a horrible boar to shop with and I will fully admit that.
As for the Bridal Shower, someone else is throwing it for me and they want me to be happy! So I’m making an effort for them. One thing I did do was make sure every last thing on our registries was something I would be happy to receive, love to open, and use. As a matter of fact I intend to buy any leftover items myself. FI got an opinion on everything but all he cared about was his SodaStream, which I found hilarious.
It’s a low-key shower… in an arboretum (in the winter lol) near my mom’s house, and my bridesmaids are making the food. I’m pretty happy with that.
The bachelorette is another thing… think I’m going to have to make sure I have a method to keep my energy up. Caffine? Cold Showers?
It’s going to be a LONG day, but my sister suggested take-out for food (eat it in the hotel room) and that makes me happy… some down time will be nice.
What helped me was that we’ve been constructing out new apartment for the last few months, while simultaneously wedding planning. Somewhere between knocking down walls, picking out cake and putting up new sheetrock I lost my persistant social wedding anxiety and decided it was all too much stress so I was going to go with the flow.
Can’t say I manage that 100% of the time, but most of the time I do.