(Closed) Advice for BIL drama

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

It sounds like they really want to kepp this small. Does she have any siblings that aren’t being invited? It so then I wouldn’t take it too personally that they just want to keep it parents only, especially since it sounds like BIL isn’t close to his family.

Post # 4
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Well mostly it’s obvious by his previous behavior that your BIL is an immature child.  Not going to his brother’s wedding because he was not asked to be a groomsman for his brother that he barely spoke with?  I’m not asking my sisters to be bridesmaids–we’re not super close and they don’t really care because they know it’s not about them.  Your BIL did not seem to have grasped that idea. 

That said, they are not inviting her siblings either, nor anyone else except parents.  This may be because BIL is still pissy about not being a groomsman but it’s probably because they only want their parents there.  Don’t be your BIL.  It’s not about you–it’s about them and what they want–respect that and let them make their own choices for their own wedding.  Your beef with him is because he did not respect your choices for your wedding.  Be the bigger person and send a card and small gift to congratulate your BIL on his marriage, try not to take it personally and have your husband tell his mother to chill out–if his brother doesn’t want him there than he will respect that and congratulate him on his own.

Post # 5
46225 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@zomgwut:  well said.

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