Post # 1
My partner and I are both from Ohio, a state that does not recognize or perform same-sex marriages. Because all of our family lives in Ohio, we have decided to have a commitment ceremony and reception back home on June 24, 2012. First, however, we will travel to NYC to legally wed the week before. In preparing for the ceremony/reception we are having a difficult time in making decisions regarding the traditional wedding events.
We have decided to have a wedding party of 2 males and 6 females. However, when we get married in NY, we are not asking the party to come. Since 1/2 would be coming from Ohio and the other half from Atlanta, GA where we attend graduate school, we felt it would be a large commitment (both financially and time) to have them come to both ceremonies.
I have never attended a commitment ceremony, but I am wondering whether or not we should have a program for the ceremony? We are doing the traditional processional with fathers, mothers, and bridal party.
Thanks for the advice!
Post # 3
Like any program, its optional to have them. They are a good idea if the people attending are not familiar with the ceremony or many of the people involved. You certainly can have them no matter what if you want, but if you dont, you dont have to.
Post # 4
My FI and I are doing the same kind of thing–we live in New England and are having our legal ceremony here and our “wedding” in Baltimore where my family lives and we’re also doing the traditional processional. Since we are both having “best dudes” and maids of honor we are doing a program. It also helps for some of the elements of the ceremony.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
It’s up to you. We did something similar: got married 2 mo. prior to the wedding in MA, then had a traditional ceremony/reception. I did a program that doubled as a seating chart (we had assigned tables, but not seats). I wanted to list everyone who was in the processional and the parts of the ceremony (it was very basic). So it read something like (I’m missing a few things since I’m doing this off the top of my head):
Order of Service
Mother and Step-father of bellagio Name
Father of bellagio Name
FI’s Maid of Honor Name
bellagio’s Maid of Honor Name
FI’s bridesman Name
bellagio’s bridesmaid Name
We had the officiant say wording in the ceremony that we’d already been legally wed and that this was considered a spiritual union.
Post # 6
My FI are doing the same thing with a little longer gap in between the legal and commitment ceremony. We have decided to have all the trapping of a wedding with friends and family for our commitment ceremony. So we are doing everything from invitations to setting charts. I think you should do what makes you happy…