- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
Ok, So I’m mostly a lurker on the boards and I don’t post much but my FI and I have recently booked the venue for our wedding in May 2016 (yay!!!) and begun the real planning process and I’ve already run into some family drama. So here’s some background: my parents had a very rocky marriage for the last 5-10 years they were married due to the fact that my father was having an affair with a work colleague so they finally got divorced about a year and a half ago and my dad immediately shacked up with his mistress and a few months later got engaged to her. So its now common knowledge that he cheated on my mom for many years before the divorce (he admitted it to me so its no longer just speculation) and basically my mom and sister both hate him and his new fiance. My sisters problems with him are actually much deeper than what I’ve explained but suffice it to say, they don’t get along at all. My mom is actually very mature about it and wants him to be happy and cause as little drama as possible but wants nothing to do with the woman he is now engaged to (for good reason).
So my problem now is in figuring out how to deal with everyone at the wedding and wedding events. For anyone that dealt with this type of drama at their own wedding- I have sooooo many questions!!
- First of all, my mom is insisting that she be allowed to walk me down the aisle with my dad, which I’m fine with but I’m worried that this will offend my dad, is it ok to ask him for this?
- Where do I seat everyone in the first rows for the ceremony? Obviously I don’t want my mom to be anywhere near my dads new fiance, and my Fiance’s parents are also divorced so maybe I should do dads on one side and moms on the other?? But I also read that with divorced parents, one set should sit a row behind or something like that?
- For formal pics after the ceremony, I just want pics with my mother and father- not their new SO’s that I don’t consider part of my family…is it ok to ask their SO’s to go enjoy the cocktail hour while we are taking pics? That way I can avoid a run in between my mom and the new fiance?
- Also, when everyone is introduced at the reception, I don’t want my dad introduced with his fiance because to have her be in any way a part of my wedding is a slap in the face to my mother so would it be ok to have my mom walk in with my sister and then have my dad walk in with his parents? Or should I just not hav family introduced at all and just have bridesmaids/groomsmen introduced?
I’m sure I’ll hit more snags in the planning process so any advice would be appreciated. I’m trying to walk a very thin line between not offending my dad (who is paying for all of my wedding) and upsetting my mom and sister who have done nothing wrong in all of this drama. Sorry for the super long post!!! 🙁