Post # 1
Hello all! This seems like a little thing, but I’m only a few weeks into planning and I don’t want my wedding word-vomit to get worse over the coming months. I know that it’s important not to let my wedding (and wedding-chat generally) dominate my conversations and hang-out sessions with my bridesmaids and our mutual girlfriends. I’m working on asking questions about school, dates, apartment searches etc, just like I did before I got engaged. I’m finding it pretty easy when we spend time together one-on-one, but really difficult in a group. I think this is because one of my bridesmaids is herself getting married a couple weeks after me, and just asked me to be her bridesmaid as well. We’re both incredibly excited to be sharing this wonderful time in our lives! But when we spend time together in a group setting, it’s like we reach wedding critical mass and the conversation shifts to wedding costs, catering menus, colors….and stays there. I feel awful about boring my other friends!
My question is, how do you bees keep the wedding out of the picture when you hang out with your girls? Maybe an even better question is, how do you compartmentalize the wedding talk so that it doesn’t take over every conversation? I start each conversation with good, non-wedding-related intentions, it’s just so tempting to bring it up when there’s a fellow bride in the room!
Post # 3
@FutureMs.Canadian: With my bridesmaids, wedding talk happens if there’s nothing else to do. If we’re getting together to go hang out downtown or go shopping or whatever…we almost never talk about it. If we’re sitting around on couches? It comes up pretty fast, haha!
Post # 4
@FutureMs.Canadian: What I have been doing is trying to focus in on other things going on around me and doing my best to limit my wedding stuff to emails. Here in the last 2 weeks it has been coming up more because my bridesmaids are working on dresses and things like that but otherwise I try not to boggle them down with wedding talk. I also write on my wedding blog so that keeps most in the loop without me repeating the same thing to different people daily. lastly, Wedding Bee has helped because everyone here is in my shoes so that helps me not bore others.
Hope this helps and Good Luck
Post # 5
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with talking about your wedding. It’s what’s going on in your life (among other things, I’m sure). So, I’d just give it as much attention as you would anything else.
Just give your conversation partners as much air time to talk about themselves… it’s about common curtosy and being genuine, IMO.
I think I was so afraid of being over the top wedding talk that I didn’t really talk about it – and I think I cheated myself out of sharing (and friends from hearing) about the experience.
Being on the married side of the fence – I’d love chatting with a friend about her wedding plans. HOWEVER, if the conversation never included a “how are you?” type moment – I’d be annoyed (no matter what the subject matter).