Advice for no DJ or dancing at reception

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

babykoala:  i’m not engaged yet but thought i’d jump in here: are you having any music at your reception? if you have a wedding planner or day-of coordinator, have him/her announce those things. they should be competent enough to pause/turn the music down and announce those things.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

babykoala:  In my experience (as a wedding photographer) weddings without music/dancing generally didn’t have the key moments. The couple just entered the reception after photos, and receptions generally consist of a dinner in which someone just stood up and gave a toast. There really were not big moments and garter and bouquet tosses didn’t happen.  Are you having absolutely NO music? I can understand not dancing, but even a DJ or musician to do nice background music?

Post # 4
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716 posts
Busy bee

starfish0116:  I’m inclined to agree with starfish0116.  What’s your reason for not wanting music?  You don’t have to have a loud DJ dance party with all the latest hits that you hear on your car radio, but music contributes to the ambiance and the mood of your event and guests.

Post # 5
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444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We had an IPOD but not much dancing went down. We asked the best man to make announcements and it was fine. Not as “professional” as a DJ, but that’s part of the tradeoff! I’d recommend gettign someone you know is really comfortable with public speaking and also to spend time with them going over timelines, what you’d like, etc. And if it is a friend or family member…throw them a couple of bucks or a gift card. They are doing you a service that in some way limits their ability to really kick back and relax at the reception.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

A wedding without dancing is so boring! I would still attend but I would leave wayyy earlier and not stay longer than I have to. Why arent you having any dancing? Are you having any other of activites?

Post # 7
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710 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

AquamarineQueen:  I’m having no dancing because we hate dancing and so do most of our guests. But we are also having a lunchtime wedding with a short 3 hour reception so it isn’t too long.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I went to a wedding where there was no dancing. It was dull. We did nothing but sit around and talk to one another. My friend was a MOH at one and she said it was painfully dull and everyone left after an hour.

Is there a reason why you don’t want any music?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

How come you don’t want music?  We didn’t have a wedding, but had a reception after the fact (a couple months after we got married) and had the reception at a sports bar, and didn’t feel the need to have music.  They had music going, and many people socialized and talked (they had pool tables as well).  From what I heard, our guests had a blast.  and no one wanted to dance anyway, so it worked out for us.

Post # 11
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3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

babykoala:  Maybe I’m sheltered, but what religion does not allow dancing? I’m just curious.

Post # 12
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245 posts
Helper bee

 

babykoala:  That’s a shame that some of your friends have told you your reception will be boring without music or alcohol, I find that so rude, talk about putting a dampener on your day before it even happens!

As long as there is background music I think your reception will be as fun as your guests make it, although if you don’t mind me asking, why have a ‘reception’ as such if you can’t have alcohol or music, wouldn’t a nice meal in a restaurant be more suited? You could still have speeches. I agree that the key moments go hand in hand with music and dancing(& usually alcohol!)to be honest, entrance, first dance, bouquet toss etc.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

LudaRae:  I like the idea of the resturant since you won’t be having dancing or drinking. And people could order drinks if they wanted at a resturant.

I am also curious as to why dancing is prohibited. What are the religious reasons? Is it the bumpking and grinding? If so then I suppose one could have mellow music to dance to.  though I do get the drinking thing.

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Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

babykoala:  Ah ok, that makes sense. So since it’s a culteral thing, I don’t think that it’s bad and if people don’t like it, then they don’t have to come! Our rehearsal dinner didn’t have music or dancing and everyone managed to have a good time.

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