- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Hello All Bees,
I want to thank you in advance for any help making this decision. I might be over thinking the whole thing.
I am really freaking out over the rehearsal dinner. I have planned our whole wedding in about 5 months. We had spoke of a budget before hand and stuck to it. It was not easy and certain things had to be cut. We are pretty adamant about not having any debt. At first we didn’t plan on having neither a rehearsal nor a rehearsal dinner. Then when we noticed how many people would be here the night before we decided it would be good to do a quick walk through and have everyone go eat. The problem with this is we didn’t budget for the dinner. His mother is super excited for the wedding and she has been both a pain and a huge help. She offered to pay for the dinner and spoke to his dad (they are divorced) about splitting the cost. He agreed.
The issues I am having are:
- We live in a very small town and there are not that many good restaurants here and most are too small to hold a party of 30. We only have two options. One is home-style cooking at a restaurant that I am not a big fan of and the other is Italian at a chain restaurant that my fiancé is not a big fan of. Plus we are serving Italian at the wedding. This means our guest will have to eat Italian two nights in a row. Which restaurant should I choose or is there a better option? Thoughts I have had are ordering pizza or subway and hosting everyone at the breakfast area in the hotel. I have spoken to management about this and they agreed. The problem with this is his mom feels that she will look bad just ordering pizza or subway in basically the hotel lobby.
- I am concerned about the cost of a restaurant it looks as though it will be between 400-500 dollars for everyone to eat. I feel like this is too much of a burden to put on his parents. They both have their own financial worries and I don’t feel as though we should make it worse. I know that she offered but I feel horrible letting someone else pay for the dinner. We have paid for everything ourselves and it feels wrong for his parents to have to foot this bill. I am also concerned that it will come up later. Should I push the cheaper option or allow her to pay for this?
Any thoughts or suggestions are welcome. I am feeling really anxious as this is the last thing I really need to get under control.