- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
For those who had your relatives help with your wedding (for example, my mom wants to make the cake and do the flowers, Mother-In-Law wants to do the invitations and decorations and wants to be the wedding planner, Uncle-in-Law? wants to be our DJ, my grandma is udpating my mom’s wedding dress to become mine….etc.).
Do you have any advice you can offer me regarding this in general? Is there anything I should be careful about? Does anyone have any stories about having a family member agree to do something and they didn’t follow through? Does anyone regret their family member helping, or think it was the best decision they have ever made? Any other thoughts?
My own thoughts so far. I kinda don’t have the money to not have relatives help out. I’m going to be paying for almost the whole wedding myself, making only $14/hr at my job and being $29k in debt. But my mom wants to do my cake. I really don’t trust her unsupervised around the oven, she’s really forgetful and doesn’t know the concept of using a timer, and has burned and overcooked many things in the past. I think my mom thinks she’s better at cooking than she really is. Having Mexican blood, her concept of time isn’t the best either lolll.
My Mother-In-Law (also Spanish), she wants to be the wedding planner, but so far, in terms of finding the venue and such, we’ve been on our own, and I feel like she’s not going to end up doing much wedding planning. She’s not a professional, she’s never done it before. So I really have low expections about that. Besides the venue we’ve chosen has taken care of 75% of the wedding planning already (includes ceremony, reception, decorating, food).
So yeah…. any advice would be appreciated! XD