Advice for skipping a wedding coordinator?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

dhallway:  Hiring a full time wedding planner was absolutely the best decision we made for our wedding and the best money spent. She helped us with loads of referrals, discounts, ideas, ordering assistance and of course whenever issues came up she was on top of them right away without me having to do any worrying or work.

I think if you cannot budget in a full time wedding planner to help you from start to finish (which is amazing!) then definitely I would suggest to anyone to try and budget a DOC. This allows you to be a bride and all your family/friends to be guests. No one has to worry about vendors doing what they are contractually obligated to do and if some snafu occurs she/he will handle it. Everyone gets to enjoy the day!

Post # 2
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I have had two weddings.  The first one I didn’t have a coordinator.  After the experience of the first wedding without a coordinator, I hired a day of coordinator for my second wedding.  It was the best money spent on the wedding and I highly recommend hiring a DOC.  It took a lot of the stress off that day because every time I saw something that needed to be done my DOC would appear and take care of it so I could just enjoy the day.  He kept us on schedule and kept the buffet and bar replenished.  He even took care of a few things on the day of the wedding that we didn’t even notice (he lit up an area that was dark where our guests could have fallen during the evening.)

Post # 4
1472 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I didn’t have a wedding coordinator and had no problems. My venue had a sort of built-in Day of Coordinator, which was helpful, but not necessary. I think it depends on your event-planning experience and resources (people, specifically). A number of my mom’s friends (all invited) helped me with all of the decorating on the day-of, and I had a lot of event-planning experience, as did my mom. I think it really depends on your venue as well. 

Post # 5
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had a DOC and it was the best money we spent! I wanted to be able to relax and enjoy my wedding day and she allowed me to do that. It was priceless. I was fine with doing all the work leading up to the wedding, so I didn’t need a full planner, but I didn’t want to worry about checking with the caterers or making sure the DJ was set up for the ceremony or move all the decorations inside if it was going to rain. My DOC not only did all this stuff that I was expecting her to do, but she also did things that I didn’t even think about and solved problems before I even knew they existed. For example – my dad did some simple appetizers that we served during cocktail hour. He got a little snippy with me about what was happening so I just left him to his own devices. But I’m really glad that my DOC went and found some nice serving dishes when he put them out in tupperware! Also, my step-brother was supposed to walk my step-mother down the aisle and flaked out at the last minute. I didn’t even realize he wasn’t there until I peeked at the processional and saw my husband’s brother walking my step-mom down the aisle! Think of the DOC as both help getting everything together and as stress insurance!

Post # 6
1104 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We hired a DOC and she’s already the best wedding expense we’ve made!

We are getting married in a public park so there will be no support from anyone and the wedding will be pretty much completely DIY.

Some pros are that I’ve never planned a wedding and she is a pro! I have enough anxiety about hosting a party for 200 people so hiring a professional has made me feel 812981X better throughout the process — she is guiding me through the process with her expertise! That alone was enough for me to pull the trigger. Other pros are that if you don’t have one, it usually is the couple and their parents who are organizing and doing most the work. And they are the ones who should enjoy it most! My DOC is the point person for vendors and other people to contact instead of me! That will free me up to enjoy the day and not worry as much about logistics. 

I researched high and low for a DOC who was affordable and I was lucky I found her. She has amazing references and is very affordable. I would say price could be a con, but in my case, not really a big con (though clearly it cost something, just not very expensive as I would have thought).

Some other pros I didn’t realize: We just met with her and she’s said point blank I do not need to even step in the venue the day of the event before the party because she will take care of ALL the decorations (with my direction of course with instructions). That whole morning I can spend relaxing and getting ready. She also offered to pick up our cupcakes, drop off our linens, and meet as many times as I’d like before the wedding. In short, I couldn’t recommend a DOC more!!

Post # 7
49 posts
  • Wedding: May 2015

So I went back and forth betweeen whether or not I should hire one due to our budget.  I finally decided to go with a DOC for the following reasons:

  • I wanted my mom and I to be able to relax and enjoy the day instead of spending, half the day setting up decor
  • I didn’t want to be worried about keeping track of all my vendors the day of
  • I have found that an opinion not tied to an emotional connection to the wedding can be helpful at times.

To solve our budget issue I went with a DOC that is fairly new to the industry.  She is trying to build up her portfolio of weddings.  This in itself as some issues:

Pro:  Price


-She oversteps her responsibilities (sometimes this is nice, but other times I just want to tell her to step back and just be a coordinator)

-Her advice is very green (most of it can be found on weddingbee/weddingwire/the knot, etc.)

Luckily, my mom has decorated many weddings and events and I am a big DIY person so all I need from the DOC is to show up day of, decorate, and organize vendors.

I think the decision should come down to what you need help with and your budget.  If you can afford it I think having one is a definite plus.

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