Advice! How would you feel if MOH's FI didn't attend your wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How would you feel if MOH's FI didn't attend your wedding?
    I would be upset. : (0 votes)
    I wouldn't mind, but only if it were for legitimate reasons that don't include a camping trip : (1 votes)
    6 %
    I wouldn't mind at all. : (16 votes)
    94 %
  • Post # 2
    922 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think it’s fine if he doesn’t go. I had a few people that didn’t bring their spouse to my wedding because they were attending other weddings or events. No biggie.

    But, I would just tell the bride that your FI can’t make it because he has other obligations. I wouldn’t ask her feelings on the situation, because then you’d be opening it up her opinions, and if she says she really wants him there your FI would be put in an awkward position to cancel his plans. 

    Post # 3
    2783 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Oops, read that backwards.  I wouldn’t care, and I hope she wouldn’t either.  It kind of bites that your FI can’t be there, but it doesn’t sound like your FI is very close to her.  Mention that he isn’t coming, and if she asks, mention the trip that had been planned far in advance.   Tell her how sad he is, but then how excited you are, and that because you don’t have your FI, you get to be focused on being there for her all day!

    Post # 5
    42076 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    MrsRevolutionize:  I would have no concern at all about him not attending. You are the one who is important to her, not him.

    I don’t think you need to “broach the subject” with the bride to guage her reaction. Simply tell her that FI has a previous commitment.

    Post # 7
    2383 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    MrsRevolutionize:  It’s fine if he doesn’t go. I was a BM in my old college roomate’s wedding a few years ago. We had moved across the country so I had to fly back across the country, get a hotel & rental car- it was alot of money, but we could swing it. Had he felt obliged to come as well we would have never been able to afford it so he stayed home. The bride was fine with it- one less person she had to worry about and one extra seat for whomever she’d like to invite!

    Post # 8
    2578 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My MOH’s husband didn’t come to our wedding. In fact, he told her (even before the invites went out) that he wouldn’t be going as he’d rather go fishing (which is normal for him… he basically went on a fishing trip the day after they got married instead of going away for a honeymoon). I still gave her a +1, but she just attended as a singleton and still had a blast.

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