Post # 1
On Monday I started working what I consider my first Big Girl job actually doing what I got my degree in and I am enjoying it. And some how in the course of two days I have made an enemy of the company HR lady. And I mean enemy. From 6:45-11:30 she pretty much discplined me for doing my job.
I walked through the door at 6:45 to get setup and put my lunch in the fridge before starting at 7. Couple minute later she comes in and sternly talked to me about pretty not to come in before my start time.
15ish minutes while waiting for my boss to come because she was running late HR lady returns to bite my head off about coming in before my boss because I didn’t exactly have something to work on until she arrived.
before lunch I get chewed out about listening to music when I recieved previous okay the day before from my boss.
So I need some advice on how to handle this situation because it seems she just lerking around for the chance to get rid of me.
Post # 4
I’d start by just ignoring it. Hopefully it’s your boss that matters and not the HR person. Sounds like she’s super weird and controlling.
(And I am an HR person!)
Post # 5
Man, she sounds like a miserable bitch. Since she’s not your boss I suggest just ignoring her. 15 minutes early is perfect because that gives you time to set up. I bet she would have berated you had you shown up on the dot and considered it late, ugh. This might be one of those damned if you do, damned if you don’t situations
Post # 6
@tynakinnon: I had a similar issue with a bat shit crazy HR lady. I went to my boss after the third day of harrassment and she ran interference. I never heard from the HR lady again unless it was directly in relation to her job.
Post # 7
Man, that is awful. Right now, you are still with in your first week. I would just let it slide until you have been there a bit longer (yep, that’s hard) She might be one of those people who thinks she is “doing you a favor” by “teaching you the ropes.” If she doesn’t get off that horse in a month or so, I would bring it up to your boss. Hopefully you have one-on-one time where you can do so privately. I would then give that some time again. If it doesn’t get better, return the issue to your boss, give it a week, and then go to her manager. Obviously, she is not doing her job if she is harrassing you.
Post # 8
She sounds pretty crazy. I’d ask around and see if anyone else had (or had) problems with her!
Innocently ask around like: “So, I’m new! What is Melissa in HR like?”
Post # 9
So far I am just letting it roll of my shoulders and making the best of the situation. My boss told the first day of work that she had it out for me and let her know as things come up. Also another factor to is that she singling out people to make their lives there hell. I guess there is at least three of us that she trolling on in hopes to get us fired. Plus there the double standards going that one person could be listening to music with their phone just down the hall while and she’ll be okay with that person but then have a stern talk to one of the three of us she singled Same goes with eating lunch at your desk that for one person it okay for but not the other.
Post # 10
@tynakinnon: document everything,every little inconsistency,every conversation,everything. Make a habit of it. It may be your saving grace in the long run.
Post # 11
@tynakinnon: geez, does she still think she’s in high school or what? i say do your best to ignore her & at least your boss is already aware of the situation
Post # 12
@tynakinnon: kill her with kindness!
Post # 13
@tynakinnon: I’m thinking she can’t fire you. Your boss has the final say. If your boss allowed you to listen to music and asked you to come in a few minutes before 7 in order to start at 7 sharp (which is what we’re all supposed to do IMO), the HR lady can’t do anything about it. Be patient. Some people make power trips when they work with young, new colleagues.
Post # 14
I think at every job I’ve had there’s been a woman in the office who started out being kind of bitchy or cold towards me. They always end up loosening up after a little while and we usually become friends (or at least friendly).
Post # 15
I agree with documenting everything.
I worked a job where you had to come in on the exact time you were to start. If you started at 8:30am you didn’t show before that. They were all paranoid about the non-hourly people suing if they work uncompensated hours. Maybe that’s why she has a stick up her butt?
I’d also document all the conversations with your boss, and anything else you see going on with her involved (to prove the unequal treatment) Oh and don’t keep it on your computer unless you email it to yourself at a private email.
Post # 16
@tksjewelry: I second this. Start a notebook with date, time and what she said. Be thorough. It may save you if she really is trying to get you fired.