Post # 1
A few days ago, FMIL approached me with tears in her eyes and thanked me for bringing her dress shopping when I was looking for our wedding. FMIL has three boys, and for her first son’s wedding, the bride didn’t invite her along. I would have felt terrible not inviting her, especially since she doesn’t have a daughter of her own to experience it with. So it was a no brainer for me to invite her, and it was fun.
DH’s other brother is getting married now and she found out the bride already has her dress, so again she wasn’t invited. So she felt the need to let me know how much it meant to her for me to invite her.
So I just wanted to let the brides out there know that you should invite your FMIL along. It will mean a lot and it helps strengthen your relationship!
Post # 3
That’s a sweet story! I think you should include who means the most to you and whose opinion matters to you. If your FMIL is one of those people, great! If not, I wouldn’t feel guilty about not including her.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2014 - Caswell Beach- Oak Island, NC
MrsCallalily: Well we know who the favorite DIL is going to be
Post # 5
Yup, my fiance is the oldest of 4 boys and the only son who is anywhere close to getting married. I am taking my MIL dress shopping with me next month.
Post # 6
Couldn’t agree more! My FI has a sister, but she didn’t include her mom in any of the planning really. I have invited her along for everything and she has thanked me over and over.
Post # 7
Ah, such a great story!
I went with just my mom for most of my appointments, but was told about a store in my FIs hometown to check out – so I invited my FMIL and FSIL to that appointment.
Then, when I went to actually pick out my dress at another store (had already tried it on and knew it was the one!), I invited them to come with to check it out.
Post # 8
I took my FMIL since my mom lives three hours away. It was great, except her taste is very different than mine, so we didn’t really see eye to eye on a lot of dresses.
Post # 9
I’m glad it worked out for you.
In my case, it was a special moment with me and my mother, and I wouldn’t have wanted anyone else to intrude on it.
Post # 10
I took my mom, dad and FMIL with me dress shopping. I know she was really greatful to be there. She too has only boys and I don’t think she got to be a part of dress shopping for her oldest son’s wife. Although, I will say we have a great relationship and she is the type of person that would tell me I looked beautiful in anything no matter what I put on. So I knew she wasn’t going to be bringing any strong opinions to the table lol. It was a very special moment for all of us.
Post # 11
JiminyCricket: Mine was the same – it was just my mom and I (I’m the only daughter, and youngest child). My FI is an only child, but I wouldn’t have felt right inviting my FMIL along. She’s lovely to me but when I started looking up dresses online just to get a feel for what was out there and what I might like, she made a few comments about those that I liked and as I’m very sensitive, I didn’t want anything to blemish the experience. PLUS, it was great bonding for my mom and I. I don’t even know if I’ll invite her or anyone other than my mom and MOH to my final fitting – not to be rude at all or not include my FMIL, but simply because my dress is mostly a surprise, it’s semi-non traditional (nothing crazy, lol but it’s not the traditional wedding gown and I know she’d have a vocal opinion about it).
Post # 12
JiminyCricket: Couldn’t agree more.
Post # 13
Although, she was very insulted that she wasn’t invited and in return, I had no idea what she was wearing on my special day. However, I didn’t care. She has daughters that she had that special moment with. I did take her with at a fitting later on but she still wouldn’t tell me what she was wearing and I stopped asking! She has since never told me what she was going to wear to events when we have them and we both showed up with fascinators at a family event. Although I’m still annoyed sometimes, I can think of worse things.
Post # 14
I didn’t have my MIL come when I got my dress, simply because I wasn’t engaged yet and I wasn’t even planning on buying a dress. Well, I did and I felt bad that she didn’t get to come. Her son is her youngest, and besides him it’s her daughter who is already married. So that was her last chance. I did invite her to the first fitting, my first time trying it on since buying it, about 2 years later. So it was kind of like buying it again. 🙂
Post # 15
MrsCallalily: Honestly, before my mom passed away I was for sure going to invite my MIL dress shopping.. but then my mom passed away and I decided that it would be entirely too hard to have my MIL there without my mama… so I guess it just depends on the situation. My MIL has 2 boys only too and I felt terrible.. but she has a very strong opinion and I didn’t want to get upset with her. So what I did was bring her when I came back to purchase the dress. So that way she got to see it there in the store but I had already chosen it.