Advice: Invite FMIL to go dress shopping.

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1499 posts
Bumble bee

That’s a sweet story! I think you should include who means the most to you and whose opinion matters to you. If your FMIL is one of those people, great! If not, I wouldn’t feel guilty about not including her.

Post # 4
24 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Caswell Beach- Oak Island, NC

MrsCallalily:  Well we know who the favorite DIL is going to be 

Post # 5
716 posts
Busy bee

Yup, my fiance is the oldest of 4 boys and the only son who is anywhere close to getting married.  I am taking my MIL dress shopping with me next month.

Post # 6
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Couldn’t agree more!  My FI has a sister, but she didn’t include her mom in any of the planning really.  I have invited her along for everything and she has thanked me over and over.  

Post # 7
4587 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ah, such a great story!

I went with just my mom for most of my appointments, but was told about a store in my FIs hometown to check out – so I invited my FMIL and FSIL to that appointment.

Then, when I went to actually pick out my dress at another store (had already tried it on and knew it was the one!), I invited them to come with to check it out.

Post # 8
282 posts
Helper bee

I took my FMIL since my mom lives three hours away.  It was great, except her taste is very different than mine, so we didn’t really see eye to eye on a lot of dresses.

Post # 9
11626 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m glad it worked out for you.

In my case, it was a special moment with me and my mother, and I wouldn’t have wanted anyone else to intrude on it.

Post # 10
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I took my mom, dad and FMIL with me dress shopping.  I know she was really greatful to be there.  She too has only boys and I don’t think she got to be a part of dress shopping for her oldest son’s wife.  Although, I will say we have a great relationship and she is the type of person that would tell me I looked beautiful in anything no matter what I put on.  So I knew she wasn’t going to be bringing any strong opinions to the table lol.  It was a very special moment for all of us.

Post # 11
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

JiminyCricket:  Mine was the same – it was just my mom and I (I’m the only daughter, and youngest child). My FI is an only child, but I wouldn’t have felt right inviting my FMIL along. She’s lovely to me but when I started looking up dresses online just to get a feel for what was out there and what I might like, she made a few comments about those that I liked and as I’m very sensitive, I didn’t want anything to blemish the experience. PLUS, it was great bonding for my mom and I. I don’t even know if I’ll invite her or anyone other than my mom and MOH to my final fitting – not to be rude at all or not include my FMIL, but simply because my dress is mostly a surprise, it’s semi-non traditional (nothing crazy, lol but it’s not the traditional wedding gown and I know she’d have a vocal opinion about it).

Post # 13
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Although, she was very insulted that she wasn’t invited and in return, I had no idea what she was wearing on my special day.  However, I didn’t care.  She has daughters that she had that special moment with.  I did take her with at a fitting later on but she still wouldn’t tell me what she was wearing and I stopped asking!  She has since never told me what she was going to wear to events when we have them and we both showed up with fascinators at a family event.  Although I’m still annoyed sometimes, I can think of worse things.

Post # 14
1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

I didn’t have my MIL come when I got my dress, simply because I wasn’t engaged yet and I wasn’t even planning on buying a dress. Well, I did and I felt bad that she didn’t get to come. Her son is her youngest, and besides him it’s her daughter who is already married. So that was her last chance. I did invite her to the first fitting, my first time trying it on since buying it, about 2 years later. So it was kind of like buying it again. 🙂

Post # 15
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

MrsCallalily:  Honestly, before my mom passed away I was for sure going to invite my MIL dress shopping.. but then my mom passed away and I decided that it would be entirely too hard to have my MIL there without my mama… so I guess it just depends on the situation. My MIL has 2 boys only too and I felt terrible.. but she has a very strong opinion and I didn’t want to get upset with her. So what I did was bring her when I came back to purchase the dress. So that way she got to see it there in the store but I had already chosen it.

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