- 5 years ago
I have been with my Boyfriend or Best Friend for almost 3 years. We have been talking about marriage for some time and have both stated that we want to marry each other. We’ve had a lot going on lately so things have been a little jumbled, but we had a talk today, a talk I never thought we would have. A few months ago he gave me a sort-of time line, that he would propose within the next year. But the talk we had today was the complete opposite of that. We are going to have 2 weeks apart. It’s not a trial seperation, we established that, but it kind of feels like it. The reason for it is because I have a lot of self-image issues and also had some bad experiences in the past that have been weighing on my mind lately. Besides that, I realized recently that I have no idea who I am – I’ve been struggling a lot with that, trying to hone in on who I am and what I want out of life. My Boyfriend or Best Friend is also struggling with some self-image issues, helping me through my stuff and also feeling very down with the fact that he can’t get a job in his field after having graduated a year ago from college, even though his field has a high need. We both just need some personal time to kind of figure out our separate issues.
We don’t want to break-up or take a break, but we both feel that some time alone (2 weeks) would be good for our mental healths. We still plan on seeing each other and communicating but, I have never lived on my own and for the majority of our relationship, we have lived either together or spent almost every night with each other.
So I guess what I’m wondering if this really is a separation or what we could do besides this? I don’t have many friends and none of my sisters or mother are close enough for me to share this, so I just need some advice, tips, etc. Thanks if you can help or share similar stories.