(Closed) advice needed!

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I actually didn’t tell my best friend that we are TTC, but she “just assumed” because she knows how much we want kids and Darling Husband is 39.  So for a while she kept asking me each month if we were pregnant yet.  Finally I told her that I would tell her if we got to that point, but that her asking me just made me feel worse about it not happening yet. 

 I think if you just have a gentle discussion with her about how her asking all the time is making you feel, she will understand.  Remind her that you are always there for her to talk to about her situation though, if she needs you.

Post # 5
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If she is a close friend, I think she’ll totally understand.  Let her know that you’re really not going to be focusing on it and that it would be helpful to you if she let YOU come to HER when you wanted to talk about your TTC journey.  If you really don’t mind talking about her stuff, tell her that too- it should help:)

Post # 6
1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

my guess is that she might be terrified that you will “beat” her – especially if she is so keen to get pregnant and obsessed with charting and the rest. maybe something to keep in mind when having the conversation with her?

having said that, i think it’s quite odd and boundary-crossing to be ringing and asking about your cycle every day!! i’d definitely be finding a way to tell her to back off a little!

Post # 7
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would remind her how disappointed she was when she didn’t get her bfp and that you are trying to stay positive, and her bringing up your AF is causing you stress. I think if you can relate it to her, she will understand and stop.

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