Post # 1
This is my third post regarding this issue, but with the wedding so close I need some advice from an outside source. My family has not spoken to my Aunt since November. She has always been somewhat of a bitch and very selfish, but my family was always close with her and sort of just accepted her for what she is. I have some angry feelings toward her and my uncle for things they have done to my parents. Anyway…i have not seen her since early November and I am not sure how to react toward her at wedding. I guess just smile and say “thanks so much for coming” I really dont want to get caught up in a convo with her or be too fake and nice-but dont want to be rude either. This is weighing heavily on me and I do not want this stress days before my wedding. Anyone been in a similar situation?
Post # 3
You should be polite and cordial to all of your guests, regardless ofyour feelings towards that at that particular moment. Thank her for coming, as you would for the rest of your guests, spend a few minutes making smalltalk, and then move on to other guests.
Post # 4
I have an aunt that always has something nasty to say and we all accept her as she is. I didn;t even let it phase me when it came to the wedding. There will be so many other people to talk to. Smile, say hello, and move on. My aunt actually didn;t show to my wedding, maybe you will be that lucky too…lol.
Post # 5
MY FSIL has created tons of problems since Sept. when we got engaged all the way up to St. Patty’s Day. It came to the point where she was cussing me out through a 17 long text message and what not. I had to have my FI talk to her. She is very selfish (wanting to dictate everything in the wedding-from the dress to the invites, to the bridal shower, to the rehearsal dinner). I always consider her like “Burger King”–she has to have it her way.
Since then, I have been the bigger person and have been “playing nice” which is what you should do in this situation. I know there are hard feelings, but put those aside. It is you and your FI’s big day, and what a bummer that would be to be angry and have that show. Everybody has “that person” in their family or family-to-be, but it will reflect more poorly on you if you are rude versus her, since her family has already accepted the fact that she’s a selfish person.
Rise above and enjoy your big day with your hubby 🙂
Post # 6
Treat her as any other guest; say hello, thank her for coming (and for the gift if applicable) then move on. With everything going on this weekend, you probably won’t even notice her or any drama she causes.
Post # 7
I’m sorry you are in this situation. Your family might get upset if you don’t invite her. Not to mention she will probably be a bigger b**** if she doen’t get an invitation. I think you should still invite her because you probably won’t even notice her at your wedding. You will be so full of excitement and love, and you won’t have room for any resentment in your heart the day of your wedding. It’s not about her, it’s about you and your fiance. Also, why don’t you have one of your family members talk to her, and basically tell her that she better be on her best behavior?
Post # 8
@vanilla44: How do your parents feel about her? You said she did some stuff to them, are they past it? Did she do anything directly to you? I’d follow your parents lead…if they are nice, then be nice. If they are stand-off-ish, then go with that…you’ll be busy enough and probably won’t have much time to have any sort extended conversation with her anyway.
Post # 9
@MommyofTwo: my parents are not ok with or her husband at this point. i wrote in a previous post that i had to move them to a different table because they were suppose to sit with my parents-but that was not happening! my parents basically said they are just going to say “hi, thanks for coming, enjoy yourself” and leave it at that. i will do the same! it feels awkward and stressful now, but i know on the day it will not bother me because i will be focused on my new husband and wedding
Post # 10
@vanilla44: Good idea. And, you are right…I have no idea what was going on at my wedding…I was just so happy to be there and enjoying the day! Have fun and enjoy every moment