Post # 1
Hello, I just got engaged a few days ago and my fiance and I have picked out a date. We began dating on April 25, 2009 and he proposed to me on April 25, 2013. I want to finish college before our wedding, so we decided to get married on Apeil 25, 2017, four years away. 2015 and 2020 are the only days in the next deacade where it falls on a Saturday and 2016 is a leap year as well as my final year of college. This date is very important to the both of us, but unfortunately falls on a Tuesday. My mom has told me that if we have the wedding on this date, most of my guests will not show up, so she suggested that we get married on our day, but have the ceremony and reception the following weekend without telling anyone besides immediate family of our actual marriage date. This doesn’t feel right to me, especially because I want our wedding dat to be the day we became man and wife. Does anyone have suggestions or advice for how I can work this all out?
Post # 3
If changing the date is not an option, I would say marry on your day and have the reception the following weekend. Just make sure you have some sort of “vow renewal” so your guests don’t feel like they’re being duped.
Post # 4
If you want to keep your date I would personally do a quickie at the courthouse ON april 25th and then the wedding the saturday following. But I wouldn’t keep the plans from anyone, I would let them know what we were planning because to me it’s unnecessary to keep it from them.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Our anniversary is in July, we’re getting married in November. Pick a new anniversary date.
Post # 6
@Kng2178: honestly, depending on what part of VA you’re in, It’s not uncommon for a weekday wedding due to heavy military families 🙂 Tuesday isn’t terrible. Just my opinion. But honestly, I would not wait till 2017 to marry. Why not go out on a special date a on the 25th and then have your wedding on the weekend on a different day.
Post # 7
It sounds like the date is really important to you, so in that case I think you should get married on 25 April 2015. In saying that, I’ve never really understood the need to wait until finishing college to get married. If for whatever reason it really is important to you to wait, then I think you should have the ceremony on the Tuesday and the reception the following Saturday.
Post # 8
@Kng2178: Why not choose the weekend before or after? That’s what we are doing 🙂 our anniversary is the day before my birthday so we are getting married the following week. It just means an extra weekend of celebrations! Plus, if you marry the weekend before your anniversary you can have two anniversaries in a row, which is pretty fun 🙂
Post # 9
I’d like to thank everyone for their advice. I’ll talk things out with my fiance and see what he says.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant
In four years time, you may feel very differently about this and whether it is really important. You may also have to choose a completely different date! I say plan your date very flexibly and reaccess in a few years. Congratulations on your engagement!
Post # 11
2017 is really far away. I think once you get closer to the wedding you might care less about getting married on a particular date and more about being able to celebrate with your family and friends. I think your mom is correct that if you must get married on that particular day then you should do it alone and have your reception later. Or you could get married on the 25th of a different month.
Post # 12
I’d plan it for 25 April 2015 if I were you. Waiting until 2017 is a really long time and I don’t really understand why finishing college first makes a difference to you.
Think about how much your relationship has grown in the four years you’ve already been together… now imagine four years on top of what you have! In two years time, finishing college as a married woman mightn’t seem like such an issue compared to your impatience at being ‘in limbo’ (it can start to feel like this) for another two years!
As for getting married on your date in 2017 and then doing it again on the weekend, it’d be strange not to be able to celebrate immediately after getting married. And if people find out, they might get a bit hurt (even though they really have no right to be). And it sounds like a bit of a hassle – it might get expensive if you want both ceremonies to be nice.
As long as it isn’t a Destination Wedding and you don’t have many out-of-town guests, having it on a Tuesday isn’t so bad (although people will grumble) just make sure you explain to everyone that the date is important to you. And do expect everyone to go home early because they have work in the morning.
Post # 13
@miharu: We have changed our date to April 25, 2015. Finishing college before getting married wasn’t important to me or my fiance. My father was trying to push that and I wanted to respect his wishes, but I can’t put my life on hold for him or anyone else. Plus, I’d just have a semester or two left.