Post # 1
Boyfriend is terrible in photos. No really. He’s handsome (I think), but the harder he tries to smile or look normal in a photo the worse it gets. He defaults to making a goofy face so that at least he looks like he’s trying to be silly instead of just looking uncomfortable! And I promise, he’s sober in all of the below photos!
We were talking about it last night, and he knows that photography is one of the most important things for me in our wedding (next summer, maybe?), and he mentioned that he’s the most nervous about someone taking photos of him all day at his own wedding!
I want to use the (1 down, 4 to go) weddings we are going to this summer as an opportunity to make him more comfortable in front of a camera. Can anyone give me pointers for how to overcome this:
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Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale
Chose a photographer that you are super comfortable with and do engagement pictures. The longer the session the more comfortable he’ll feel. Plus, go for a photographer that does more photojurnlistic style and less posed. Mr. Peep has the same problem- he does this strange face- some times with bug eyes. The day of- ask your photographer to focus on candids of you two together- the less posed the more likely you guys will both look fantastic. And remember a photographer takes a million photos on the big day- and all you really need is one great one!! Good luck!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
Mr Frenchie doesn’t take photos well either… it really helped him to take our engagement pictures. He was SUPER nervous, but spending that much time infront of the camera really helped him relax. Also our photog gave him great direction.
To help Mr Frenchie relax when we take pictures I try to tickle him, I don’t know how well that will work for you, but I’ve found that my most natural smiles come from when I laugh (natch). So, I tried to laugh (giggle at little) when I’m getting my picture taken. Maybe that would help him relax.
Post # 5
i agree with the others, engagement pics might be a great idea because you have one-on-one extended time with a photographer and can become used to the camera being around. plus if you ask your photographer to send you most of the pics, not just the edited ones, he can get an idea of what he has to do in order to look good.
i never thought that i would get engagement pics but my guy is pretty camera shy and has really bad posture and i want him to see lots of pics of himself with the posture issue so that he makes a concerted effort on the big day. ha! this is so controlling, i love it. (i’m kidding. kind of.) i’m sure i’ll be totally perfect, though. (i am kidding for real now.)
Post # 6
these days its all about the photojournalism….that being said, you cant avoid bridals and having to pose a little bit at least.
the best ways to get your man to loosen up are to get to the know the photographer on a more personal level…meet before hand, maybe multiple meetings to discuss things. definately have an engagement shoot….
ultimately, its the photographers job to make him comfortable and produce the best pictures you can get….theres many many discussion on strategies forthis amongst photographers. I would just emphasise to him that its all about you guys, not the pictures…he should just concentrate on you and interacting with you and that will produce amazing pictures.
Post # 7
p.s. i have to say, your boyfriend is pretty cute and sweet, partly due to the goofy looks! you two make a very cute couple.
Post # 8
@ lavenderpug: AWWWW thanks! I think I’ll keep him around for a while 🙂
Post # 9
I was thinking about giving him a shot of whiskey beforehand to help him relax.
Post # 10
@ allurex: DUDE! I KNOW with the shot of whiskey! At the beer/wine wedding we went to this weekend he looked around and said "this is nice, but we definatley need to serve beer, wine and whiskey." Sure babe, I’ll write that into the contract 🙂
Post # 11
He doesn’t look horrible! He just looks like he’s a guy having funny actually. Has he ever waited to smile until the camera is ready to flash? Like when someone has to stare into the sun and not have the squinty look? Keep the eyes closed until on "3" and then open your eyes and smile. You might just want more candid shots than posed. My FI feels very awkward about smiling for a camera too. I think the less time he has to stand there and hold a smile the better…and that goes for anyone. The longer you hold the smile the less the smile looks real.
Post # 12
My FI, who I personally think looks very handsome in most photos, HATES every single picture of himself. I’m dreading going through our pics and having him hate every single one that I like. His favorite comment to make is "I have crazy eyes in that picture." No, no you don’t. Oy.
You guys are really cute! I agree with everyone that maybe candids are the way to go if he’s not too good with the posed smiley pictures. I’m sure he’ll be so happy to be married to you that the smiles will all come out genuine and adorable. Good luck!
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
I think he looks cute
But, talk to your photographer and tell him/her your concerns. They are the professionals and have tons of ways to loosen you up, etc. I second the idea of booking an e-pic shoot with your photographer as "practice" for the big day…and more great pictures to boot!
Good luck 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2009 - The 19th Century Club
I have this problem as well, which is a struggle because Mr. S is a photographer so my picture is always being taken! So, when he and I are having our picture taken together, like for our e-shoot, he knows to say silly things to make me laugh…because when you’re laughing your smile it much more natural.
So, try telling little inside jokes and things like that …and of course, let your photographer know the situation! I’m sure he/she will have some tips and tricks to help you along 🙂
Post # 15
I gave my husband a beer! It helped, honest!!
Post # 16
I agree with IronMaiden and think you should offer him a beer. It will really help to calm him down and feel more at ease.