Post # 1
As some of you probably know by now my cousin has planned her wedding six weeks before mine and we will be sharing the same flower girl. In order to save my aunt from purchasing two dresses my cousin has suggested that our little cousin (flower girl) wear the same dress in both weddings and simply add a sash to match the wedding colors. Good idea right?
While I originally agreed, with trepidation, I’m starting to have concerns about this plan and I’m not sure how to approach it. While I am all about saving people money I have no say in what the dress will look like (material, length, design etc) and so I’m stuck with whatever dress my cousin wants. Her wedding is informal, mine is very formal.
Also, the dress will be in ivory (not what I wanted, I wanted light pink). After one wedding I am terrified at the thought of what might be on the dress with a child wearing it all night. I have a hard enough time keeping stuff clean lot alone an eight year old “partying” the night away.
If the dress is not the right style, design, or is dirty/destroyed at my cousin’s wedding I am concerned that there won’t be enough time to find a new one for mine.
What would you do in this situation? Would you say something?
Post # 3
I would offer to purchase another dress for her that matched my theme, and wedding.
Post # 4
I would just purchase her a new dress. Check out Zuilily, they have fancy dresses on there all the time that are inexpensive. They have a few pink ones today that are $30.
Post # 5
I agree with PP. Just get a new dress that you like
Post # 6
Get her a new dress — you can give whatever reason you want, whether it’s that you saw an inspiration picture you couldn’t get out of your head, you wanted your sweet little cousin to have two souvenirs, etc…but yeah, if you want to change the plans, you should probably pick the cost up.
Your concerns are completely valid, though! When I was a tiny flower girl myself (many years ago), I must have accidentally let my bouquet rest against the skirt of the dress, and the foliage must have been dyed a little, because there was a blue-green spot that my mom had to dab (and dab and dab) out before I went down the aisle.
Post # 7
I talked my FI earlier today and told him I was just really upset about the situation and I am going to be discussing us buying a dress with my aunt tomorrow. He said that was understandable and supported the extra expense.
I just think it is a really ridiculous situation I am once again put into. 🙁
Post # 8
Just an option to save some Money – look at Easter dresses – WM, JCP, Sears, Target all have cute ones, and under $30!
Post # 9
I agree about just buying her what you want. That way, you KNOW it’ll be perfect and you won’t feel bad having her buy 2 dresses so close together.
I’d suggest ebay or after-Easter sales. Especially for a light pink color! We got the flower girl dress off ebay for like $25! <– Brand new.
Post # 10
Agree, just buy the dress you want. I wouldn’t risk using the other one.
Post # 11
I also want to say, along with the great situations, to step back for a second and take a breath if you can. I was freaking out about my flower girl dresses and the options available but in the end, little kids look cute in just about anything, so don’t stress too much about this kind of detail. It all works out.
Post # 12
buy the dress you want there are so many pretty ones online for under $100 , she needs to match into your theme also