Advice Needed!: Husband thinks he is being selfish!

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Just talk it out. How much more difficult does it need to be, as long as you talk?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

MrsTeasandkeys:  Then call him into the room and let him “walk in” on you…. if you get my drift. That’s generally a green light for  any man. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

MrsTeasandkeys:  My husband and I have run into this too. Sex when you’re pregnant is either an enormous chore and the thought of it even sucks or something you are suddenly desperate for and there is no in between (thanks, hormones!) I had my libido shoot up like crazy in month 4 and then go dead in month 5-6 and now its back again. When it was down, my husband was sooo confused and, like yours, took it kinda personally. Now that its back, he’s all for it again! LOL!

Explain its hormones. You have no control and that he might as well take it while he can 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

MrsTeasandkeys:  

Hormones play such a huge part in your libido when you’re pregnant.  If he wants some proof, I’m sure you can find some research to back this up online.  If I recall correctly it was about 27-28 weeks when mine increased to higher than pre-pregnancy levels.  You should both be taking advantage of this before the little one comes! 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

MrsTeasandkeys:  I’m confused. Can’t you just use lube if you’re dry? And why not just seduce him until he gets the picture?

Post # 12
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Busy bee

MrsTeasandkeys:  That’s good to hear. I have male friends that wonder allowed why their gfs and wives never initiate and sometimes I think it’s something that just doesn’t occur to us!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My husband and I didnt have sex after the 1st trimester – is that un-usual ?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

MrsTeasandkeys: Just ask him “If I wasn’t going to enjoy this, would I really be initiating it?  Did you see me initiating anything a month ago? (Or whenever the time line is write for you)”……then promise him that if you’re uncomfortable you will let him know and can stop.  Having a baby/kid is a lot of compromise/give and take/trial and error.  Better to start now!! 🙂 

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