- 6 years ago
I just first off want to say that this is the only disagreement me and my SO ever have but as we’ve been living together for 3 years and this issue still hasn’t been resolved, I am in need of some serious advice of what to do.
I like the kitchen to be clean. My SO is of the opinion that if the dishes aren’t done by the time we go to bed, he’ll do them the next day. But not the next morning – oh no, the next evening when we get back from work. And if he’s feeling particularly lazy, he won’t do them then, either.
I’m always the one who keeps on top of the kitchen and he will only do it if I ask him to, but whenever I ask him to do anything he always responds with a sigh.
Today I’ve been off sick from work. I’ve done a batch of washing up during the day, taken out the bin, cleaned the bin and the kitchen floor because it dripped something gross all over the place and made dinner. I’m pretty shattered. But at 10pm before I went to go to bed, I had to go and do the dishes. He sat on the sofa watching TV.
He could sense I wasn’t happy and asked me what was wrong. I told him (please note: didn’t shout at all) that I didn’t like nagging, but nor did I like always having to ask for him to do something – especially when it results in a sigh. I explained everything I have just explained to you now and once I’d got it off my chest, he stayed on the sofa, so I went to finish the dishes.
He asked me why I was finishing them now and that I should go to bed if I’m tired. I asked him if he was planning on doing them now – he said no, he’d do them tomorrow. With that, I carried on.
Then comes the bad part. I told me that my carrying on doing the dishes would make him angry, so I needed to leave the room. I asked why he was getting angry and he wouldn’t say anything more than ‘you’d had your 10 minute rant – now leave the room please’.
I have no idea what just happened. And this happens frequently whenever it’s something to do with the kitchen. I have no idea why it winds him up so much but every single time I try and talk about it this happens.
What do I do? 🙁