Advice needed, please!

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Too bad if they don’t like it. 3rd hand smoke is bad for you. Listen to the doctor and don’t worry about people beig upset. It’s your job to protect your baby. If they don’t like it they can quit! When my mom got pregnant she told my Gma who wa a smoker that she wouldn’t be allowed around her grand kids if she smelt like smoke. My Gma quit cold turkey that day!

Post # 4
1996 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Is there other family you could stay with and have them come visit you? Not a chance in hell I’d let my baby endure 1st, 2nd or 3rd hand smoke. 

Post # 5
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

The house will be full of chemicals from the smoke that the baby will be exposed to even if they do not smoke in the house if baby is there.  That is not an appropriate environment for anyone, especially the baby.  Third hand smoke is bad for everyone, it’s your ILs choice to smoke but you don’t have to expose yourself or your baby to that.  Your husband is going to have to get over it, his parents being upset you won’t visit at their house is not as important as your health and the health of the baby.

Post # 7
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Uhh baby’s health is WAY more important, and if they don’t like your decision then they are selfish to expect the baby to be put through that.

Post # 8
2291 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

What if you just met up somewhere else? Baby’s health is more important than your IL’s feelings.

Post # 9
716 posts
Busy bee

Your husband should support your decision, especially as it’s in line witht eh doctor’s recommendation.  A new born baby should not be exposed to a smoke filled house.  Figure out if there’s somewhere else to stay and meet.  Also, your husband can explain to his parents that it’s not personal.  In the end, I’m sure everyone has the baby’s best interests at heart.

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