Post # 1
Long story short, I am due at the end of next month, and my husband and I are discussing going home for the holidays. Problem is, my husband’s parents smoke (in their homes) and I am anti smoking. It makes me nauseated and gives me a headache. I don’t want to bring the baby to their home to visit for hours with the smoke lingering and her breathing that in. I know they wouldn’t smoke in the house while the baby is there, but since they continuously smoke inside, the house stinks of it. I’ve asked the doctor if it will be ok, just for a couple hours, and the doctor said they don’t recommend bringing a baby into that. Now my husband is upset that I want to find non smoking areas for our visits with his parents. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to fight with my husband, or have him be upset, but this is our baby’s health. Does anyone have any advice?
Post # 3
Too bad if they don’t like it. 3rd hand smoke is bad for you. Listen to the doctor and don’t worry about people beig upset. It’s your job to protect your baby. If they don’t like it they can quit! When my mom got pregnant she told my Gma who wa a smoker that she wouldn’t be allowed around her grand kids if she smelt like smoke. My Gma quit cold turkey that day!
Post # 4
Is there other family you could stay with and have them come visit you? Not a chance in hell I’d let my baby endure 1st, 2nd or 3rd hand smoke.
Post # 5
The house will be full of chemicals from the smoke that the baby will be exposed to even if they do not smoke in the house if baby is there. That is not an appropriate environment for anyone, especially the baby. Third hand smoke is bad for everyone, it’s your ILs choice to smoke but you don’t have to expose yourself or your baby to that. Your husband is going to have to get over it, his parents being upset you won’t visit at their house is not as important as your health and the health of the baby.
Post # 6
That’s exactly how I feel, too bad if they don’t like it, this is her health and it’s more important! If it was my family, I would tell them that in a heartbeat, but I don’t understand why my husband doesn’t feel the same way. He has an aunt and grandma who don’t smoke and live right by everyone. He agrees that we will stay with one of them, but he thinks that a couple hour visit in a house where people smoke but wont actively be smoking will be fine. I disagree.
Post # 7
Uhh baby’s health is WAY more important, and if they don’t like your decision then they are selfish to expect the baby to be put through that.
Post # 8
What if you just met up somewhere else? Baby’s health is more important than your IL’s feelings.
Post # 9
Your husband should support your decision, especially as it’s in line witht eh doctor’s recommendation. A new born baby should not be exposed to a smoke filled house. Figure out if there’s somewhere else to stay and meet. Also, your husband can explain to his parents that it’s not personal. In the end, I’m sure everyone has the baby’s best interests at heart.