Advice needed please

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

I think it looks lovely and dainty as-is.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Depends on whether you are sentimentally attached to it or not.

I love big stones, so I say get a larger one, but lots of people I know would NEVER upgrade for sentimental reasons. What does your hubby say?

However, if it is in your budget and you’d like bigger, then go for it! I would!

Post # 4
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Worker bee

Personally I like the look as it is, especially since your wedding ring also has diamonds that complement your e-ring. Pretty and cute are still good compliments – nothing to feel self-conscious about!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2003

I think it’s lovely as is. But if you want something bigger and can afford it, I say go for it. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

What’s bothering you? The fact that people have described it as “cute”? If so, I don’t know what your finances are, but think about spending X amount to secure the approval of other people, and then compare whether that’s worth it to whatever else you could do with X amount. My stone is small and it was described as “cute” as well, which admittedly gave me a bit of a wrinkle during the time of my engagement, but the truth is, outside of your engagement, no one really looks or cares about your ring–except you. And now that I’ve been wearing my ring for years, I rather like my small stone because it suits my style–and my lifestyle–perfectly. Oh and that whole other symbolic commitment stuff too 😉 But that’s me. If YOU are a girl that likes her bling, then go for it. But if you’re doing it because other people are making you self-conscious, I’d take a step back. 

FWIW–I didn’t realize your ring was less than 1/2 ct. because it looks proportionate with your hand. You must have dainty hands!

  • This reply was modified 2 years ago by  BothCoasts.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Pineapple209:  I have friends in the UK and all have rings about your size (or even just have plain bands). From what I’ve read in other posts, that’s pretty normal over there.

Please don’t let all the rings on here make you love yours less or feel like yours isn’t good/big/flashy/blingy enough. This site tends to attract alot of people who have larger rings, but it’s by no means the norm.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I honestly think you would get better results by changing your wedding band instead. The one you have now over powers your diamond. A thin pave band would look nice and only cost around $300, which would be alot cheaper than getting a new diamond, that probably wouldn’t look much bigger being only .2 carat more. Your solitaire is dainty and elegant, I think you should leave it as is.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I think your set looks perfect in your hand, but if you are going to upgrade, do it because a bigger stone goes better with your style and taste.  If you let other’s comments and opinions influence your decisions, you’ll end up exhausted and unsatisfied.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2003

I certainly wouldn’t upgrade because of the rings you see here. The internet isn’t exactly real life. I think what you have is beautiful. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I love it, and think it fits your hand nicely. I love the combination. I was wondering what is the width mm of your channel band?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think your set is beautiful! I have a small e-ring too, at 1/4 carat. When I was showing it off to my fiance’s family at a funeral one of his aunts said, “Oh how dainty!” In my head I said shove it bitch. It was his great grandmothers, as I’m sure everyone on this site knows by now, and I knew she recognized it and was trying to place it. Oh the drama it would cause if they actually knew. Anyway, love does not equal carat size. There are some rings on this site that deserve planets orbiting them. Don’t let it get you down. There is nothing wrong with a smaller stone. Also, some of the big stones aren’t actually diamonds. A lot of ladies like moissys, and they ain’t cheap, but as far as those go, you go big or go home. Be happy with what you have. It really is pretty set.

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