Post # 1
Hey Bees! So I’m torn on what is the right ettiquette on the whole hair and makeup for my girls on the wedding day? I’m already buying their wedding day jewelry and have great gift bags that cost a lot, there are 6 total girls. So I’ve heard that they should pay and I’ve heard I can pay towards some of it? but I’m just not sure what to do!
Anyone else have this problem or know the best way to go?
thanks so much!
5 weeks to go!
Post # 3
The way I see it, if you’re setting rules on how someone should look you should pay for it but if you tell them to get themselves there, looking presentable, then its their problem. In general, though, I think the bride should pay for that; I did.
Post # 4
@Tasji23: I think its up to you. Some people will pay for it as a part of their gift for being in the wedding. Weddings I have been in, we (the bridesmaids) have paid for themselves, and we got gifts from the bride/groom.
Post # 5
And might I add, I’m not paying for my girls. I bought them their jewelry and other gifts. I am not demanding that they do their hair or make up a certain way; they can do whatever they want for the day of the wedding with their hair and makeup.
Post # 6
If you’re requiring them to have it done professionally I think you should pay. If it’s their choice I would just leave it up to them.
Post # 7
My wedding is one week before yours! February 16, 2013! Almost 4 weeks left! I bought the girls faux fur shawls, bracelet, earrings All Givenchy and expensive, and also Essie Nail polish, and a beautiful BCBG clutch/bag. They will be paying for their own hair and makeup. I talked to all of them first before I booked the salon to come to my house. I had prices in my hand to dicuss with my bridesmaids before booking anything. That was the best way I could go about it.
Post # 8
If the bride wants pro hair and makeup, she should pay. Especially if this hasn’t been discussed with them beforehand.
Post # 9
I told my girls that they can do their hair and makeup however they prefer, but if they want to get hair and makeup done with me they can. I figured making it their choice was a good way to go.
Post # 10
Im not paying for my girls to do that it would be hundreds of dollars! If they want professional make up or hair they can pay for it or do it them selves.
Post # 11
I think if you’re requiring them to do it a particuar way, and for it to be done professionally then you should pay for it. For my own wedding, I just requested that hair be worn up off the neck. However they wanted to achieve that was up to them, and I knew they all had some skills in the hair department. Three decided to get their hair done and one decided to do it herself. I gave them the option of joining me at my hair dresser’s if they wanted, but at their own expense.
Post # 12
I think that if the bride can afford to pay,she should…
Post # 13
Bridesmaids pay for the dress. and thats it. Anything else the bride requires is on her, jewellery, shoes, hair, makeup, clutches, bouquets etc
Post # 14
I’m just letting them do their makeup on their own since I will be as well. We are all sharing a suite the night before and will have our hair done and I will likely pay for that, I’m also getting their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and their accessories. All they need to get are their shoes. I’m likely going to do one more thing for them since they are most driving a long distance to be there
Post # 15
I asked for my bridesmaids hair to look nice but not super formal, as I was wearing my very simply – down and curly. I didn’t specify anything about makeup. I did my own hair and makeup, and I did not pay for anyones.
Post # 16
Wow thank you all so much for your advice…all of you make total sense. I’m having hair and make up come to my venue so next week we’re having a bridesmaids meeting I’m going to just have a sit down and discuss the options with them and we’ll go from there. I just didn’t want to do the “wrong” thing…my first wedding! haha…and hopefully my only one it’s like a third full time job..but I can’t wait!
Thanks ladies I really love this site helps out so much! You all rock!