Post # 1
So this will be me & my FH’s first Vday as an “engaged couple”. Because of our wedding plans, we are on a strict budget and we set a limit for the amount we would each spend on the day. I was fine with this until I found a Beer & Cheese tasting event coming up that I know he would LOVE. Problem is, it is about 3 times what we were each budgeted. Part of me wants to make it something special because he would totally not expect this from me (I despise beer :)) but then I know we are also saving for a reason.
Any thoughts? Advice?
Thank you! 🙂
Post # 3
I think that because you are on a strict budget, you should talk to him and ask him if he would agree to go over budget. He would probably feel bad if you went over budget and he wasn’t able to. Also, if you are on a strict budget, you will have to pull that money from something else you want.
You could get some of his favorite beer and/or some new ones that you think he might like to try and cheese and do your own tasting. It would probably be a lot more fun.
Post # 4
My SO and I have set a budget too for gifts, we both routinely go over said budget…yet we are not engaged and are not saving for anything in particular so it is not a big deal- you should talk to him about going over budget before any money is exchanged.
Post # 5
Where would the over-the-budget money come from? If it’s coming from your wedding savings, no, I don’t think it’s okay. But if you’re choosing to give him this gift and depriving yourself of something (new pair of shoes, lunch out for 2 weeks instead of brown bagging leftovers to work, etc.) instead, then I think it’s okay.
Does that make sense?
Post # 6
Makes sense. Thanks guys. I decided to go with something a lot cheaper but more personal. We’ll save the beer & cheese for another time 🙂