- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
So here’s the thing.
Fiance proposed to me last Februrary. We told everyon pretty soon after but didn’t pick at date until last April/May. Still…a year in advance. At that time we picked our bridal party. We each have 6, 1 Best Man/MOH, 4 BM/GM, and 1 JR BM/GM. We asked them as soon as we had a date and everyone said yes.
All but one of my bridesmaids lives out of state. This is why I was sure to give them pleanty of notice. Also, for this reason I told them they could pick ANY dress they wanted. Just knee-length and red. That way they could fit the dress into their budget.
The other day we found out that FI’s best man won’t be able to come to the wedding because he can’t afford it. Very dissapointing because a) we told them about the day a YEAR ago and b) we found flights for MUCH cheaper than what the best man said he found.
At least he let us know ahead of time. It sucks and Fiance is upset, but it’s okay.
Now here’s my question.
Two of my bridal party are my sisters, I know they’re coming. One is FI’s sister, I know she’s coming. Maid/Matron of Honor lives about an hour away, I know she’s coming. One Bridesmaid or Best Man lives about 10 hrs away, but has said she’ll make it. The last Bridesmaid or Best Man, I’ll call her V, is my problem. I know she’s on a budget, that’s fine! So am I! Like I said, she’s known about this for over a year. I was talking to her a while back and jokingly said something about her coming to visit me. She said she was planning on it sometime at the end of summer…
Ladies, my wedding is June. The beginning of June. I said “You know the wedding is June 8th, right?” She just said “haha, yeah” then changed subjects.
Then I asked her about doing my make-up the day of because she’s really good at that. She said she would but admitted she didnt’ have her dress or know how/when she’s going to get here.
I’m worried she won’t come. And I’m worried she won’t tell me she’s not coming until the last minute.
I’m trying to figure out ways for her to travel cheaper. But how do I bring it up? How do I ask if she’s coming without offending her? I would of course be upset if she didn’t come, but I’d still rather know now than later. I sent her an invite, but I don’t think she’ll RSVP.
This turned out way long, sorry bees.
But if you read this all, I would REALLY appriciate some advice. 🙂