Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2014 - On a boat
Hi Everyone,<br /><br />Well, this is an awkward one and I need some help! <br /><br />My Fiance’s Dad is an alcoholic and when he drinks too much, let’s just say he gets very opinionated and mouthy. He also suffers from social anxiety, depression, etc. He hasn’t flown home to see his family in over 10 years. The Wedding will be the first time seeing the whole family again and we suspect he will be very nervous, and won’t be pleased to see certain Family Members. <br /><br />My Fiance and I are very concerned that he will drink more than he should (if at all) at the Wedding and start to get mouthy…<br /><br />So, what do we do? Does my Fiance talk to him ahead of time and say he would appreciate if he would stick to pop and coffee at the Wedding? Or does he speak to his Mom and have her say something? Or, do we say nothing at all?<br /><br />Any input is greatly appreciated!
Post # 2
I wouldn’t risk offending him ahead of time by bringing it up. But I would be sure to point him out to the bartender so that they’re aware and will cut him off if it gets to that. And be sure someone from the venue or a DOC, if you have one, is aware he is a concern of yours.
Post # 3
bride_to_be_060714: Both of my parents were alcoholics when I had my first wedding. That’s why we had an early afternoon wedding with a no alcohol punch reception. We left after the reception for our honeymoon.My parents hosted an after party at their home and both of them were highy inebriated. But then again so was everyone else they hosted.
My inlaws, who didn’t drink, hosted the non drinkers at a dinner at the hotel where they stayed.
It’s a bit unrealistic to think an alcoholic is not going to drink if you ask them not to. If it were that easy, they would all be recovering alcoholics, not active drinkers.