Advice on asking bridal party

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Tricky. I have a similar situation as I have three sisters. I think what I’m going to ask my oldest sister to sign and do it by age too. I don’t think the others will be offended and if they are… well really, it’s just about signing a piece of paper. I keep trying to tell myself not to over-think this! 🙂

Post # 4
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

ecrowe1218:  why the heck do your BM’s need all that info???!!!! Seriously somebody hands me a binder like that and I’d run for the hills. 

I had 2 MOH’s. I asked them to figure it out between the two of them.  

Post # 5
867 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I too am a little confused about these binders, why so they need them? If you want a certain type of dress etc. That is something you should talk to them about, and trust me go try them on in person, they might not even look good on your gals! Do you want them spending tons of money on smth they look awful in? What is on the calander? You should work with these girls to pick out dates for things and the Budget?! Ack! Is this a budget you require then to spend or of your wedding? Because bridesmaids aren’t co wedding planners that is your FI. Obviously you want them to follow your vision but you didn’t suddenly become a dictator, you get more flys with honey as they say. IMO I would have no desire to be a BM to someone who acted that way!

Post # 6
3096 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I wouldn’t mind the binders, personally, but I am kind of obsessed with school/office supplies to begin with. I am putting together a .PDF of info for my girls so they can keep abreast of everything. I’m having a bit of a nontraditional wedding, so I want to make sure all of my girls are aware of what is going on. I think the binder is definitely a cute idea, I will just caution that they may not want to use it, so don’t be upset or hurt if they opt against using it how you want. My maids are the same way: I wanted to get them all Lilly Pulitzer planners, but quickly realized no one would use them (except one or two of my bridesmaids). 

As for which sister to ask: Perhaps I’m wrong, but are siblings allowed to sign the marriage certificate? If so, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. If they are your sisters and love you, they shouldn’t be upset by something trivial like who gets to sign the license or who gets to stand next to you. It’s very considerate of you to want to give them each a special role. I also have two sisters, but I only had one sister be my MOH–no hurt feelings on the other sister’s end. 

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