(Closed) Advice on bridal shower dilemma

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Talk to Future Mother-In-Law yourself, and tell her. See what she thinks! I think thats the best way, and you wont sound rude. If she thinks it’ll hurt Brenda’s feelings (its kind of weird that she wants to throw oyu a shower anyways, in my opinion), then maybe she’ll tell her for you?

Post # 4
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If I were you, I would contact your Future Mother-In-Law first, and tell her that her friend offered to throw you a bridal shower, and you were not planning on having a bridal shower and what does SHE think you should do. To my way of thinking, she basically got you into this. If she thinks it’s a great idea, suck it up and have a bridal shower (you never know, you might actually enjoy it!) If she thinks it is rather weird for one of her friends, who doesn’t really know you, to do this, she may run interference and take care of the matter for you. Personally, I am thinking this may be your FMILs friends way of getting back into your FMILs good graces, and may not have that much to do with you at all.

Post # 6
28 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

Brenda, though well intentioned, is being inappropriate. The bridal shower is hosted by the maid of honor, or less traditionally, the mother or sister of the bride. Politely, but firmly, decline Brenda’s invitation, thank her for the gesture, and tell her you hope to see her at the wedding.

Incidentally, a wedding gift from a stranger does not equate an invitation to your wedding. A simple handwritten thank you note, (not by email!) is courtesy enough.


Good luck,



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