Post # 1
Hi everyone! So my fiancé bachelor party is coming up very soon and I feel uneasy about the whole thing. You see, we’ve discussed this day (strippers) a few times and how I would appreciate it if we both didn’t have strippers apart of that night. He agreed and we moved on.. until last night. He now feels there is no big deal in having strippers and his buddies would look at him strang. He said, he rather not have a bachelor party if there are no strippers. I expressed my feelings and concerns, yet he doesn’t seem to get it. Since when is strippers a requirement for a bachelor party? anyways, am i over reacting?
How do you guys feel about your fiance hiring private strippers?
Post # 2
In theory, I’d be ok with it as long as it was an isolated incident and no sexual activity. However, my fiance has no interest in having strippers at his bachelor party, so who knows if I’d react differently if he did actually want them. I have offered to be his stripper at home (similar to that Friends episode).
Post # 3
The part that stands out to me is how he’d rather not have one at all if he couldn’t have strippers. That makes it seem like strippers are all he’s concerned with rather than spending a night out with the boys. No one here can tell you how you should feel as everyone has varying and justified feelings on the issue. If you are totally opposed to strippers then tell him so. If you’re ok with looking but no touching then let him know you’re boundaries you’re comfortable with. He should respect your opinions whatever they might be.
Post # 4
FutureMrsBex: “No one here can tell you how you should feel as everyone has varying and justified feelings on the issue” Perfectly worded. No one could have explained that better. My marriage broke up because of the bachelor party and stripper. You need to decide what you feel in no uncertain terms. And If he can’t agree to that then you need to re consider the wedding. And if he promises one thing then does another, you need to back out of the wedding even if it is an hour or so before the ceremony. It will save you a world of heart break later. Keep us posted.
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