Advice on how to announce wedding changes

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@offbeatbride314:  Send out announcements after the wedding to the family/friends you want to tell.  That is the traditional way to notify non-guests of a wedding.  No need to tell them why you bumped it up, it’s none of their business.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@offbeatbride314:  Then tell people.  If they ask why you moved it up, tell them it’s a personal issue or tell them the truth or tell them you couldn’t wait to get married.  Most people won’t care why, they will be happy for you to get married.  I will say that it’s awkward to discuss wedding plans with people you aren’t planning to invite so keep that in mind as well.

Post # 6
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1793 posts
Buzzing bee

While I agree with Beachbride, the only other thing I can think of is to let everyone know that your plans have changed and you are having a small, family only wedding.  If they ask why, just tell them you felt it was best to get married now.  Respect your parent’s privacy and let them tell people they are ill in their own time.

That being said, I encourage all brides to keep their weddings off of facebook so all those “friends” don’t get ideas about attending or asking awkward questions when you weren’t intending to invite them.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Be careful about being vague – if you post on Facebook that you’ve moved up the wedding with no reason why, people will assume you are pregnant. Just a word of warning 🙂 

even if you say a “family issue” they’ll assume you’re KU. 

Post # 8
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you do a facebook post or something that just says, “We’ve recently been reminded that life is precious and short. We have decided to reprioritize the celebration of our love by moving up the wedding and hosting a small intimate celebration.”

 

It may spark questions, but if I saw that on facebook, I would assume that whatever moved it up was none of my business unless it was a very very very very close friend in which case I may call to check in and if they disclosed details to me, great.

 

Post # 12
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2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@yandz:  +1 I think that is the best way to word it.

Post # 13
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906 posts
Busy bee

You can also say something like hey everyone we will love to celebrate with you all but under family circumstances and due to a illness in the family we decided to have a small family only wedding. We are sorry for the last minute changes and we hope you all understand. 

On a endnote you can host a reception a few months or one or two years after the wedding. 

Post # 14
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6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@offbeatbride314:  if you announce you’re having a small wedding and then start posting about all your excited things to your whole friends list you are rubbing in their faces that they didn’t make the short list. My advice is create a list with just those you are inviting and post all wedding related things to be viewable to only them. Post wedding send (or post) an announcement that you were wed. 

Post # 15
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 

@offbeatbride314:  if you post to weddingbee any of the things you find

dress, accessories, hair etc we will be happy for you!

try to keep it a secret!

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