Post # 1
I made a post before about our friend who had cancer. He is 22 years old, and the cancer won this battle. It was a very rare form of cancer, and the doctors didn’t know what to do. They started a treatment that was working. As it was killing his cancer, it was releasing potassium and other stuff into his body, causing his liver and kidneys to fail. He could not get donor organs because he was a cancer patient, so he went into a coma, and then he passed away.
He was a really awesome guy, and we want to honor him in the wedding. He was going to be the best man. Does anyone know a way that we can do this? Any ideas?
Post # 3
@ecstaticfuturebride: Anyway you could incorporate a ribbon of his favorite color onto the boutinneire (don’t know how to spell lol) and your bouquets?
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Reserved seat with a rose and an “in memoriam note” in the program.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss. That is terrible. There are a lot of things you can do. Play his favorite song at the reception, write a blurb about him in your program, If he had a fave snack or drink offer it during reception.
Post # 6
One of my cousin’s closest friends got married not long after he died. He did not have a best man, and left the spot where he would have stood open. Would you be able to do something like that?
Post # 7
@arsing89: I was thining this but soeone needs to sign the certificate. PLus I also think it would really bring down the whole evning having no BM speech and everyone reflecting on why.
Post # 8
@figgnewton: i like this idea. it’s subtle enough that not everyone would know, but i think it’s a great way to have him “be there” with you. it’s less “this guy died” than a note in the program, especially if his death was recent. i’m having an in memoriam thing in my program (if we do programs), but none of the deaths were super recent (two early this year, one last year, and the rest were 10+ years ago)
Post # 9
@Atalanta: You could have another groomsman sign the Certificate and I’ve been to a few weddings with no BM speech.
Post # 10
I second a PP’s suggestion about a ribbon in his favorite color. maybe have something embroidered/sewn info your future husbnad’s sleeve?
Post # 11
I’m very sorry to hear about this.
My brother passed away a month before his 22nd, 2 months before our wedding, and we had a lantern with a candle burning for him on the signing table with what would have been his boutonnière beside it. I also pinned a locket with his picture to my bouquet. (If the best man was closer with your fiancé, you could pin a locket to his boutonnière.)
Not sure if those appeal to you, but they were meaningful for us.
Very difficult thing to deal with – hoping you guys are ok.
Post # 12
Thank you all so much for your suggestions and condolences. I love these ideas. We really want to do something special for him.
Post # 13
Not sure if it is doable or not, but how about altering your flowers to be purple or incorporate one purple flower in each arrangement, as purple is the color ribbon to recognize cancer victims & survivors.
Another idea, if you are so inclined, might be to ask – in lieu of gifts – that donations be made in his honor to cancer research. You could put a nice note about this on your wedding website.