(Closed) Advice on how to include FSIL

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with you.  Is FSIL a shy person?  Maybe she feels like the odd-one out in the bridal party?  You should definitely send her an email encouraging her to take part in your get-togethers, and also asking her to make an effort to attend one of your pre-wedding events at least!  She’s a bridesmaid and needs to participate if possible!

My BM’s actually didn’t know each other that well, but I feel like they’ve befriended each other a bit now that they’re all “in this together” so to speak.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Treasure43:  Hmm if she’s not a shy person, then it definitely sounds like she’s being a little party pooper.  She asked to be involved, so why is she ducking out of everything?  Tell her she needs to participate!!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

Kudos to you for reaching out to her.  It does sound like she’s TRYING to be excited – but feels like the odd man out (ie: a BM because of her brother, not because of her relationship with you).  Her asking if she could bring a friend also makes me think that she’s a little intimidated to be around your friends.  BUT – it’s great news that she’s going to show up.

Before getting to your last update, I was going to suggest that maybe you and she could do something just for the two of you – kind of a girl bonding thing (or maybe have it be the two of you and FMIL)?

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