- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
My FI and I are trying to keep our guest list for the wedding as small as we can, not because of cost but to keep a more intimate feel to the wedding. That being said, we are inviting about 130 people comprised of our aunts, uncles, cousins (and SOs), and our close friends (mostly mutual friends).
We originally planned to invite one couple who I would call “friends of the family” of my FI’s family (let’s call them D&G), who we know better than any of our other parents’ friends. However, the last time we talked to FI’s parents about the guest list, they listed other couples they are friends with who they want us to invite as well. I had similar discussions with my own parents, who know we want to keep the wedding to people we are close with, and they told us not to worry about inviting any of their friends. To make matters more confusing, I’ve recently discovered that D&G haven’t really seen much of my FILs lately, so it might be kind of awkward if they were invited to our wedding but not any of their other friends.
I think given the circumstances, the best path forward is to not invite any of our parents’ friends, including D&G, so if anyone asks them or us about it, we can say that we are keeping the wedding to family and our close friends.
What do you think, bees? I should also add that we are paying for the wedding ourselves, so the final say is our own, but we are trying to keep things kind of open with our parents to prevent fights later on.
Also, any suggestions on how to word it when we talk to my FI’s parents again?