Advice on Name Change

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@aperson3:  We know a friend who waited until they had children to change her name.  It was easier for her to accept it.  Why don’t you wait?  Maybe you’ll get used to hearing “Mrs. Meichel” and not be bothered by it?

Post # 4
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10986 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Have you considered making your maiden name your new, legal middle name and taking your DH’s last name?  For example, let’s say your maiden name is Smith — you would be Michelle Smith Meichel.

I know that this doesn’t directly address your concerns regarding pronounciation, but it would provide you with a way to still use your maiden name as part of your name whenever you want to do so.  It also would provide another name to prounounce in between that may help others to see Meichel as “Michael.”

This is the name change that I did, and I am very happy with it. 

*Note: Brides changing their names in the following states apparently do not have this option when requesting a name change due to marriage:  Washington, California, Ohio, Pennsylvania, New York, and New Jersey.

Post # 6
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7259 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I pronounced it Michelle Michael in my head when I read it. Even if people pronounce it wrong sometimes, at least YOU know that they aren’t pronounced the same way.

Post # 7
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I would do whatever feels right for you, if you dont want to change it, then dont. You could have it double barrelled?

 

 

Post # 8
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1327 posts
Bumble bee

To be honest, I don’t why/how it’d make things easier for you to change your name after kids, because if people are going to mispronounce your name, they will do it anyway, be it now or later.

I guessed right on how to pronounce your new name, but I’ll bet lots of people wouldn’t.  But don’t let that stop you!  Why is that so terrible? You have an easy-to-pronounce first name, which will be used more often.  Plus lots of kids grow up with ethnic (first AND last) names that are difficult for people to pronounce – it builds character. 😉

If you want to keep with tradition, have the same name as your kids, not hyphenate, and changing your middle name/having two middle names is not an option, just change it now – or as soon as you get married. 🙂

Post # 9
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Yeah, I thought it was pronounced “Michael,” like the others have said. You will probably get mispronunciations sometimes, but it’s quickly resolved with, “It’s pronounced Mike-el.”

Changing it later on could be an issue. I know I would have to pay to do so then, while I got a free name change with the marriage license, so that may also be something to consider.

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