- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
I need your help please!!
My wedding is soon and I can’t decide whether to change my name and if I should when.
I’m kind of attached to my maiden name as it feels like ‘me’ but I’m pretty traditional and the changing of the name is traditional. Plus if we are able to have children then I’d want my name to be the same as the kids. I’d want the family to share the name.
I could get over being attached to my maiden name more easily if it weren’t for something I’m not feeling entirely comfortable with but I’m not sure if I’m blowing it out of proportion or not…
My name could become Michelle Meichel.
I’ve noticed that when they see my fiance’s name written it’s common for people to incorrectly pronounce his surname in a way that makes it sound similar to my actual first name. So they say the Meichel like Michelle. Which is incorrect, it’s supposed to be pronounced as Mike-el.
So I’m worried they’ll say my name as like Michelle Michelle and I’m a bit ugh on that. Pronounced correctly it sounds fine I think, but I don’t want to be called Michelle Michelle!
I don’t know what to do. Someone told me they think when Michelle Meichel is written down people are more likely to realise the surname is not pronounced Michelle because you wouldn’t be Michelle Michelle. So they think they may get it wrong less for me than they were for him. Said verbally it’s not an issue.
I’m not into the hyphenated names personally and then they may think I did that because it would have been Michelle Michelle otherwise and be back to getting it wrong. I don’t expect there’s any way he’d want to change his name either, being traditional.
So my choices are I keep my maiden name, I change my name to his after the wedding, or I change only when we have kids and try to explain to his family in the meantime why I haven’t changed it.
The other half says I can keep my name or change it it’s up to me.
What do you think? Do you think you’d pronounce the name right with those two names joined together? Do you think it’s an issue or not so much? Should I change my name? Now or wait to see if we do have kids? I’m wondering what you think….