- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
I have a fairly large wedding party by typical standards. FI and I have 7 each. It has been a joke that because we have so much support planning and getting help would be easy as pie. Especially with a group so close. With only 6 days until the big day I know that unfortunately asking my 7 best friends was a very bad mistake.
It all started with our engagement party. Our friends wanted to throw a party. Everything seemed to be fine so we sat back and waited. All they did was send the facebook invites. Nothing was planned out. We ended up planning our own engagement party three days before and supplying a great amount of the food and drinks because our friends “didn’t have time” to pick up the necessities or “enough cash” to pull it off. Those who were supposed to bring something showed up empty handed.
To sum up the 7 months between then and now, they claimed to be throwing me a bridal shower that my Granny2B ended up having to hold. I ended up not having a stagette party at all because no one wanted to make a decision about what to do and no one wanted to commit to a day. Two girls still have not picked up their dresses from the shop and I just foudn out one girl hasnt even had hers tailored yet. Only one girl bought shoes.
My bridesmaids have become even worse in the past few weeks. After their lack of pulling through for the engagement party I decided not to ask them for any wedding help and myself and my FSILs have done all of the projects. Three girls had approached me with different ideas they wanted to help out with. One wanted to make my card box another wanted to make a slideshow and the other wanted to assemble my escort cards. They kept asking and asking and finally my stress level gave in. Saturday is the big day and I have NO slideshow, NO card box and NO escort cards. The slideshow girl hasnt even bothered to look for pictures. I really regret agreeing to let them take these on. It’s not like I gave them these big expensive and time consuming jobs and then demanded they do them. They volunteered and once again have failed me. I have decieded to make my own card box (like I have time) and do without the escort cards. I will be finnishing the slideshow myself becuase we made the mistake of renting the projector we will be paying for 1 way or the other. When I told her that I would be taking over she called me a Bridezilla.
I personally do not think expecting the things your bridesmaids have volunteered to do is BRIDEZILLA behavior. I have not demanded a single thing out of these girls and I still get nailed with the B word. They have done nothing but let me down and I don’t know what to do. I keep telling them they aren’t following through and they just keep apologizing and saying they will fix it. But the fix never comes. HELP