- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
My dad is not close with any of us. He was extremely abusive to us when we were little so we escaped. My mom ended up being the same but after years of therapy, my siblings and I are ok. I have tried to have a relationship with my dad since he has changed so much since when we were little. But once he found out I was getting married and I asked if he could help with anything, he has compeltely ignored me. He wont answer my texts, emails or calls. I am calling and emailing and texting just to say hi, or wish him a happy b-day or happy fathers day. No response. My brother currently lives with him and my step mom and says he gets them. He jsut doesnt respond. FI and I are paying for our wedding completely ourselves (my mom cant afford to help and his parents wont help). I honestly dont want ANYTHING from my dad. So bees, I need your advice on this…. I do not want to have my dad walk me down the aisle. I would rather walk alone (I know how nerve-racking that will be). I also do not want to have a father-daughter dance. The only thing is I dont want my step-mom getting in my face about it or people wondering why I am walking alone when my dad is sitting there. But I don’t really feel he has earned the right to be a part of my wedding and I do not want him to be acknowledged considering he has never been there for me and is now pulling this crap. What should I do? Anyone in a similar situation?