Post # 1
Hi Im getting married on the beach and we booked our officiant months ago. When we spoke I agreed to his fee of 600 dollars and that was to include the ceremony as well as a rehearsal dinner. My wedding is now two months away and my fiance emails him to check on a time for the rehearsal dinner. He replied that hed be fine doing the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding would me and my fiance pay for his hotel. Confused my fiance emailed back that he thought the rehearsal dinner was included already. He replied back that he doesnt normally do it before. Extremely confused now my fiance askes him when he normally does rehearsals and his rephy was fine I’ll pay for the hotel myself. Im upset now because I feel that if we were expected to pat for his hotel that should have been brought up when the fee was discussed not when we try to confirm a time two months before the wedding. Im not sure what we should respond to him. Am i being ridiculous or shouldn;t he have said his accomodations would need to be provided. Had we known that I never would of booked him as we are already paying alot of money for him to officiate, and if our location was too far from him than he should have mentioned that.
Post # 3
Do you have anything in writing from him, or was all of this verbally discussed?
I had something similar happen with our muscians. We verbally discussed a plan, but when it came to nailing down the details, they had other ideas. It drove me bonkers, because it was so close to the wedding.
I don’t think you are being ridiculous. I’m assuming the officiant knew the details of the wedding (ie: location) when booking. I can understand how there would be some confusion regarding the rehearsal, however, that has to be quite common from in his line of work!
Post # 4
As a person who Officiates weddings. I am often disappointed to hear stories like yours. To answer your question bluntly, No, you are not overreacting.
Any person who officiates a ceremony should have a written contract that you sign. It should outline absolutely everything that he or she will be doing along with prices for everything. It should outline all travel expenses, accommodations and the expectations for his or her services. It should outline the date, time and cost for the rehearsal and ceremony. It also should outline what you are expected to do.
If you do not have a contract with this man and have not paid him. Then thank goodness and find yourself a Officiant that will be open and honest with you. My advice would be to request the contract immediately. Go over it with a fine tooth comb. Ask any and all questions that you can think of, no question is dumb.