- 3 years ago
Need a bit of advice or suggestions on a duty a good friend could do to feel included in the wedding. Heres the scenario
3 friends and I have been close for a very long time, Friend 1 is bridesmaid, Friend 2 and I had a big drama about the time FI and I got together, and we havent really recovered since then. FI was upset enough at the situation he didnt even want her invited to the wedding. We are having a private ceremony and public reception so we settled on her being invited to the reception like everyone else but not the ceremony.
In the whittling of the guest list we’re at the point now where it’s more or less just family is coming to the ceremony. I would like to invite friend 3 to the ceremony but doing so would emphasize the fact Friend 2 is not invited and basically ostracize her so I was advised I should invite either both or neither to the ceremony but not 1 and not the other. I’m not really ready to burn the bridge with friend 2 because I dont think we’ve had enough time for everything to play out and dont really want to throw out a friendship that could still be worked on, however I also dont want to invite her to the ceremony especially since that was the compromise with FI.
Considering asking Friend 3 to have some other sort of duty or role in the wedding so if I say “ceremony is family only” and dont invite either her or friend 2 then she can still feel a part of the day and not completely hurt I havent asked her to be at the ceremony. But I’m not sure what I can ask her to do?
Guest book attendant seems too lame/cop out, not to mention I have no intentions of there being one. I could ask her to be the “day of” person who’s in charge of making sure everything gets put together at the reception area okay while the ceremony is going on but that almost seems like too much work? just trying to find some alternatives here?
any ideas? sorry for the long winded-ness, just a sticky kinda story
- This topic was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by seames321.